« Let us ask the Lord
for the grace to fight against the evil spirit. »
(Pope Francis, March 27, 2020)

Self-control and mastery

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 Since I control my small tantrums,
 I manage to contain the most dangerous ones.

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  « Anger takes hold of us, changes our expression, our tone of voice. It carries us away and “we” are no longer anywhere. It is when we are calm, serene, pacified, that we must prepare for future combat. (It is when we are happy that we must build ourselves (it is during peace that the city positions its defenses ))

 Remembering our purpose, the meaning of our life. This is a fundamental key: if in the moments when we are not carried away, when we are masters of ourselves, we consciously establish a link between our calm and our anger, conversely, at the beginning of anger, it will be possible for us to establish a link with our moments of calm, with the truth that is within us.

 The sleeping man, the slave man, is condemned to oscillate according to emotions which he does not control. We must act and no longer react. » [ Arnaud Desjardins, 'The paths of wisdom' ]
 « Anger or indignation, even legitimate, lowers our level of consciousness. We must keep calm. » [ Sylvie Lorain-Berger, "The messengers from beyond" ]
 « Hard experiences have taught me not to let my anger out. And just as by compressing the vapor one obtains a new source of energy, by controlling one's anger, one can obtain astonishing force.

 To suppress any angry impulse, I try to cultivate patience , to control my anger as soon as it arises in me. Don't ask me how I do it, it's a habit everyone should cultivate. » (Gandhi)   Contributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY, LOVE, LIFE or DEATH
 « Until a long work of purification is accomplished, we still keep in us the negative impulses of anger. » [ Alain Joseph Bellet (medium) ]
We must always be on our guard .
 « To prevent anger, which is inherently unpredictable, we must control our thoughts at all times. » [ Dalai Lama ]

 The Dalai Lama would later add:

 « I learned to appreciate the good side of anger which, even if it seems unwelcome, needs to be expressed rather than turning into resentment. »

 A "holy anger" may be legitimate, but it's often better to let it go for a night Excerpt from the page: "Human relations" :

 Postpone your reaction

 The Gastiner Rabbe made it a rule never to express his displeasure on the very day someone upset him. The next day he said to the man: You pained me yesterday. »  ("Presences of Judaism")
 « Sister Sarah had the wisdom, when I started to get carried away, never to contradict me. Later, when she saw me more in control of myself, she took up the subject again with a smile: “ Emmanuelle, don't you think your project needs to be discussed? » ('Sister Emmanuelle's Farewell')   .

« Feeling or being angry is not a sin, but what one does when angry is carefully weighed. But righteous anger is completely permissible and is in the will of God. »

[ Maria Simma (2002) ]  

 The cry accompanies the pain

When someone feels the need to scream, it's because he's unwell.
is thoughts suffocate him. This is not the time for dialogue, you have to let the cry evacuate his discomfort a little.
To exteriorize the depressions, Dr. E. Kubler-Ross had installed a mattress on the floor in a room, and encouraged the person to hit it with all his might with a stick.