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« He who differs from me, far from harming me, enriches me. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]


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Their purpose

Who is this "I" speaking?

Our vision of the other  
Preconceptions
We judge, too quickly
Yet we look like them
Keep control of your feelings
Xenophobia
☞ The homosexuality

Labor relations  
The social success
 ▪ The evil of power
 ▪ The importance of work well understood
The leader, the equality
 ▪ Flatteries & contempt
 ▪ Ingratitude, misunderstandings, injustices
 ▪ The little tyrants
The promiscuity
 ▪ The thoughts, the atmosphere

The conflicts  
Oppositions, disagreements
The difficult relationships
How to approach them

In the face of wickedness  
How to get out
Knowledge of the human soul
Mistakes we've been through
Seeing and accepting yourself

_ _

How to get out of it  
Do not react at the same level
Postpone your reaction
Explain yourself with control
Refuse fear - the enemy of love
Strive to understand
To be stronger than evil
Call to heaven

Develop inner strength  
Act on yourself
A new vision
A new vision on yourself too
The right attitude
Live with others

My enemy, my friend

One hand washes the other...

Forgive ?

The friendship | The exchange

It took me a long time to understand that I came to Earth
to learn and evolve.
And much longer to realize that the other,
the one who bothers me, is there to help me.

 ☞ The little-known role of the beings that gravitate around us .
  (Change the word "parent" by "the one who crosses our path")

« We are an animal that can only become aware of itself in its dealings with others. » (Harutunian)


It is only in human soil that the Being can germinate.

The reason for being
of human relations

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  « Before our incarnation here below, we do not all come from the same dimensions☆ Excerpt from the page: "Why life" :

 The progression of the human soul

Every soul starts from the bottom of the ladder.
From instinct to consciousness, it rises.
From the satisfaction of her desires to the happiness of giving, she rises.
And the path is long and marked with suffering.

 « If different minds conceive such different truths, it is because evolution is not the same in everyone. »
(Gandhi)

 « The Spirit, like man, also has its childhood.
At their origin, the Spirits have only an instinctive existence and are barely aware of themselves and their actions. »
[Message collected by Allan Kardec]

 « If you don't feel ready to forgive someone's actions, at least forgive the person. (Tell yourself that his still animal conscience is not awake, but that his soul is nonetheless a reflection of God). »
[Doreen Virtue, "Communicating with Angels"]

, and these are more or less luminous depending on our level of spiritual evolution. It is he who determines the hue of our soul. Contrary to popular belief, it has nothing to do with being smart, nice, or handsome. Being kind on the surface has never stopped anyone from having a dark soul. Some beings come from a dimension where the souls are black, that is to say animated by heavy feelings, and who, once on Earth, live at the expense of others. You can try to help them, if they want to and you have the strength to do so, otherwise it is better to avoid them and go your way so as not to leave your feathers behind.

 If on Earth, we are all mixed, it is for, in interaction with each other, trying to move forward and illuminate our shadowy parts. We need each other to evolve, and we must find in the difficulty and in the negativity of the other, the light that will help us to move forward. »
[ Patricia Darré (medium) ]

 « In a relationship you have no obligations, you only have opportunities.

 But when it hurts you, don't turn away from it! Stick to figuring out what she wants to teach you. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « What is difficult for you to understand on earth is the importance of loving the other even with their faults and also with their differences. »
[ Alain Joseph Bellet, 'Dialogues with the spirit world' ]

 « Differences are riches, subjects for reflection, opportunities to grow, not grounds for conflict! »
(D. Meurois and A. Givaudan, 'Par l’esprit du Soleil')magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Anne Givaudan on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE , HEALTH or DEATH

 « One often sees lesser Spirits incarnated among advanced men. It is with a view to their advancement that God has placed them in this enlightened environment, and sometimes also, to serve as a ordeal of this same environment. »
[Message collected by Allan Kardec]

 « It is by meeting the other that one is enriched. This is how, in depth, one can see his heart transformed, his judgment converted and a new art of living and thinking created. »
('Sister Emmanuelle's Farewell')magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Sister Emmanuelle on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « People ignore the basic purpose of personal relationships. When you lose sight of the fact that you are sacred souls on a sacred journey, the purpose, the reason for being of personal relationships escapes you. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « It is God who gradually gives the most important cards in the game of existence: encounters. »
(F. Caragnon, "Jade and the Sacred Mysteries of Life")

 « Personal relationships are sacred because they provide the greatest (indeed, the only) opportunity to create the experience of your highest idea of ​​Self☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Every being is connected to their inner Self,
which is connected to God.

 Our inner being

 « In you there are two characters, one terrestrial, stuck to matter, mired in its heaviness, and the other celestial, letting itself be carried by the light. The moment you conceive your two poles, you become greedy for unity and begin your quest for purity. But that's also where the trouble begins! In the innocence of unconsciousness you found a certain tranquility, operating in the same patterns for generations, fit to taste the pleasures of the flesh.
 However, as soon as your consciousness opens to greater lucidity, your thirst for clarity comes up against the shadows.
 In the grip of an existential despair, your mind then plays monumental tricks on you. You become the prey of grief, terrible doubts, loneliness and your impatience.
 We are with you more than ever in these wanderings. Because then we recognize in you the flame, the inner fire.

 Then begins an interior dialogue between your soul, which has already recognized us, and us who are your servants, your companions on the way. At your side, ready to support you in the difficult passages, smiling at your stammerings as a child of light.

 In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages"]
following...
. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « You must not meet man on his surface but on the seventh floor of his soul and his heart and his spirit. Otherwise, looking for yourself in your most vulgar movements, you end up shedding blood unnecessarily. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « What counts above all are the links that are established between individuals. When we sense in front of each soul the spiritual impulse that animates it, the relationship with others will be quite different. Every soul must be a sacred enigma to us. »
[ Rudolf Steiner ]

 « Most people enter a relationship with what they can get out of it, rather than what they can bring into it. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « You must consciously recognize and love God in each person. The person is only an envelope, the mask through which God manifests himself. »
[ Elisabeth Haich, "Initiation" ]

 « He has the absolute certainty of only being able to approach God through love for men. »
 (Testimony on Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH


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Their purpose

Who is this "I" speaking?

Our vision of the other  

Labor relations  

The conflicts  

In the face of wickedness  

How to get out of it  

Develop inner strength  

My enemy, my friend

One hand washes the other...

Forgive ?

The friendship | The exchange


Who is this "I" speaking?

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  A word closes you. You said "I". It's finish.
  A curtain has been drawn between you and the eternal Truth.
  Then you can no longer recognize it because you are in darkness.
  The curtain is called "I". If you open it, you will be HIM
☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Every being is connected to their inner Self,
which is connected to God.

 Our inner being

 « In you there are two characters, one terrestrial, stuck to matter, mired in its heaviness, and the other celestial, letting itself be carried by the light. The moment you conceive your two poles, you become greedy for unity and begin your quest for purity. But that's also where the trouble begins! In the innocence of unconsciousness you found a certain tranquility, operating in the same patterns for generations, fit to taste the pleasures of the flesh.
 However, as soon as your consciousness opens to greater lucidity, your thirst for clarity comes up against the shadows.
 In the grip of an existential despair, your mind then plays monumental tricks on you. You become the prey of grief, terrible doubts, loneliness and your impatience.
 We are with you more than ever in these wanderings. Because then we recognize in you the flame, the inner fire.

 Then begins an interior dialogue between your soul, which has already recognized us, and us who are your servants, your companions on the way. At your side, ready to support you in the difficult passages, smiling at your stammerings as a child of light.

 In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages"]
following...
.
[ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]

 « We always think 'I am me', that is to say a man, a woman, clothed in a social status, claiming from others a certain type of consideration, etc. That's what I call the ground level details, the twists and turns, and that's where all the conflict starts. Of course, these details are important, but we absolutely must not limit ourselves to this level. »
(Jeanne Guesné, 'The Great Passage')magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Jeanne Guesné on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « You are both small and grand. You are both weak and fragile, and of a strength that you do not suspect. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages" ]

 « The human being is the link between the spiritual and material worlds. He can live under the laws of both worlds at the same time. His thoughts , words and deeds can radiate universal love. However, his body belongs to the material world. »
[ Elisabeth Haich, "Initiation" ]

 « Man is more than he appears to be, he is capable of offering more than he appears to possess. To dissect it is to diminish it. To judge it is to detach oneself from it. We lose more than we could gain.

 I would like to make you a man who fears God and loves those who fear Him. »
[Elie Wiesel, 'Hasidic Celebration']

  ☞  What weighs on our actions

  ☞  " Me, I "

 The man and his fellows

 « You man, you only exist through the tree that through the others you compose. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « Man's greatest enemy is his senseless love for himself. It is this love that separates him from others. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « Since I have known God, I have changed a lot. Before, I was just a small piece of woman of nothing at all; now I am a unique creature among thousands and thousands. »
(F. Caragnon, "Jade and the Sacred Mysteries of Life")

 « How would the drop of water know itself as a river? »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]


Home and site MAP > Human relations >  Points Their purpose

Who is this "I" speaking?

Our vision of the other

Labor relations  

The conflicts  

In the face of wickedness  

How to get out of it  

Develop inner strength  

My enemy, my friend

One hand washes the other...

Forgive ?

The friendship | The exchange


To hate a person,
it's enough to see in him only what irritates us.

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Our vision of the other

Preconceptions
We judge, too quickly
Yet we look like them
Keep control of your feelings
Xenophobia
☞ The homosexuality

xxx

 Preconceptions

 « In relationships, the other person's ego is a cage whose bars (hard, forbidding) fades away when you can see the person through it. »
(Laurent Gounelle, 'And you will find the treasure that sleeps within you')

 « You must not meet man on his surface but on the seventh floor of his soul and his heart and his spirit. Otherwise, looking for yourself in your most vulgar movements, you end up shedding blood unnecessarily. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « It is because I identify my neighbor with the image of a harmful being (a rat, a piece of garbage, a piece of waste) that one day I could come to exterminate him. »

(Dr. Norin Chai. Born in Cambodia, he was four years old during the genocide carried out
by the Khmer Rouge between 1975 and 1979)

 « You were loved in your childhood. But maybe you have been unloved. By giving you a false idea of others, by presenting them as rivals. »
(Martin Gray, 'The Forces of Life')

 « Our imagination amplifies and perverts reality, inflames our feelings. Depending on whether we are seized with desire or hatred for someone, we see him in an extremely attractive or repulsive light.
 Mind control allows us to see things as they really are, and not through our fantasies. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « We never look with an intellect free of its preconceptions, so we only see what we unconsciously project. »
(Jeanne Guesné, 'The Great Passage')magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Jeanne Guesné on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « See in everyone something other than what they show you. There is more, much more! »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « The human mind cannot see three facades of a building at the same time, which nevertheless has four. The danger comes when the mind begins to take the part for the whole. »
(Abraham Heschel, 'God in Search of Man')

 « Commit all your efforts to finding positive aspects in the other. » (but do we want to see them?)
[ Dalai Lama ]

We judge, too quickly

 « Nothing is easier than to make hasty judgments about others and their actions, and we are all guilty of this failing. »
[ R. Altea, "A long ladder to the sky" ]

 « You will be forced to judge yourselves according to your own laws, we pity those who ignore tolerance and compassion. »
[ "To those who seek" ]

 « "Be the judge only of yourself," said Jesus. And for your neighbour, be very careful; better, consider yourself incompetent.

 Be charitable for those who are not, it's the only way to show them where they are sinning, without offending them. »
[Paqui, "Heavenly Talks"]

 « (...) The real world was more like a dream. After three days I became normal again, my perception was clearer and yet very different from what I had always felt in my life. I no longer saw anything bad in anyone like before when I was really judgmental. »
[ Testimony of Benedict Mellen-Thomas , returning from a NDE ]

« Being loving towards someone who seems unsympathetic to us (we are all potentially unsympathetic to someone else) is not forcing oneself to have positive feelings, it is already to try to judge it as little as possible, have a minimum of compassion for the internal suffering that leads him to be unpleasant towards us, and avoid attacking him in return. »
(Dr Olivier Chambon, psychiatrist
"Extraordinary experiences around death")
magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Olivier Chambon on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « People are basically alike. We are finite little beings who could help each other if we dared to get involved, if we were compassionate, and finally if we stopped judging and tried to understand WHY people behave the way they do during crises. This requires a good understanding not only of human behavior in general, but also of the cultural and religious background of the individual. »
[ Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ]

 We can't help judging

 « You criticize too often, you judge too harshly and sometimes unfairly, and that's a bad habit. »
[Paqui, "Heavenly Talks"]

 « In all religions it is recommended to 'put yourself in the place of the other' in order to discover new angles for analyzing a situation. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « Tested masters know all they need from the habit of seeing the bright side in all things, and reserving judgment.

 [...] What must gradually become one of the characteristics of the pupil on the path of initiation is his prudence in forming and formulating his judgments. »
[ Rudolf Steiner ]

 « He who judges the other will have to answer for it. Racist and critical chatter, avoid them, they will be judged by the weighing of the soul. What matters the gaze of the other, it is yours in that of the other that is important because it reflects the divine breath. »
(Message received by Rosine Terral-Meyer, medium)   magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Rosine Terral-Meyer
on the theme of:

The WAY, LIFE or DEATH

 « (...) It's a big task that takes many lives, because you tend to make a quick judgment, to say something is 'bad' or 'wrong', or 'not enough', rather than to bless what you do not choose. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « To have a critical, suspicious, hostile attitude towards those around us, to react without benevolence, is to sow the seed of countless annoyances and worries that will one day or another come our way. »
(Karl Otto Schmidt, 'We Live More Than Once') LoupeAuteurContributions by Karl Schmidt on the theme of:

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 « Be indulgent for the failings of your fellows instead of despising ignorance and vice, instruct them; be gentle and kind to all that is less than you. »
[Message collected by Allan Kardec]

 « Great Spirit, help me never to criticize my neighbor until I have walked at least a mile in his moccasins. »
(Excerpt from one of the oldest prayers of the Indians of North America)

 We refuse to look at each other

 Betty Eadie's observation during her self-judgment:

 « The attitudes that I had criticized in others - and found unacceptable - were almost all those that I had adopted or feared to follow. I was rejecting this image that people were reflecting of my own weaknesses, and my potential failings.
 (...) When we find it difficult to love someone, it is often because they remind us of something within us that we loathe. »
[Betty J. Eadie, "In the Arms of Light"]

 « I realize that everything I thought I didn't love was only what I hadn't yet recognized in myself! Now that I know myself perfectly, I love everything and everyone with the same love because I am one with them. »
[ Elisabeth Haich, "Initiation" ]

 « These errors and faults, note well: you could not notice them in others if they were not always present in you. »

(Joseph Benner, The Impersonal Life-1914)LoupeAuteurContributions by Joseph Benner on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE ou DEATH

 Keep control of your feelings

 « Rigorous introspection will gradually free us from any vestige of anger, bad will, resentment, injustice, in short, from all that we pursue in others. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

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 « You have to learn to repress any feeling of displeasure. »
[ Rudolf Steiner ]

Resentment is a negative feeling, a « invisible footprint » who « gives off like thick smoke »[Doreen Virtue, "Communicating with Angels"]

If we attempt to get rid of it by externalizing it:
 . we darken our entourage and draw it away from us.
 . by echoing these negative feelings (by bringing them to life), we play the game and attract evil spirits
☆ Excerpt from the page: "Low-astral" :

wandering spirits

  « Some spirits remain attached to matter. Their low vibrations keep them close to the reality of the living. They didn't “cross over”. Some are evil spirits, others are wandering spirits, and still others are ghosts.

Wandering spirits  are in transition between our material world and the afterlife. They generally continue to live among us for a short time, but this situation can last for centuries! Indeed, the wandering spirit retains its free will ( as well as his personality and inclinations ) , and it depends only on him to cross the course. »
[ Patricia Darré (medium) ]

following...
who prowl near our world (yetser hara in the Old Testament).

So ? So we have to pull ourselves together as soon as a bad thought bothers us. If necessary by pinching yourself! But do not let it occupy our mind.

 « The spirit universe near you is literally saturated with the emanations of negative thoughts . So block in you the least embryo of bad thought. »
[ "To those who seek" ]


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Who is this "I" speaking?

Our vision of the other  

Labor relations  

The conflicts  

In the face of wickedness  

_ _

How to get out of it  

Develop inner strength  

My enemy, my friend

One hand washes the other...

Forgive ?

The friendship | The exchange

Xenophobia

stranger in town (Adamo)


I walk in the city and I feel like a stranger
There's no peace of mind when your heart is in your shoes
See more...
She doesn't smile the city and especially not to strangers
I walk and I exile myself in the city, uprooted

Far too free to be able to serve it
But far too chained, to run away

And I seek, but what am I look for ?
Someone who would help me well, who would stretch out a hand, a pole
And I'm dragging, bad seed, tons of disappointed hope
From porters having received a lot of hate

I walk in the city at a time when the neon lights are on light
up I melt into the night between hammer and anvil
And now my fear disguises itself as arrogance
I feel that on edge my pain is becoming violence

Far too proud to be able to lower my eyes
I defy gazes, as if in play

And I'm looking, yes I'm looking for them
Those who in the back of their eyes have flashes of fire
Yes I'm looking for them, and I'm dragging, bad seed, my desire to exist
Even if it means wanting to break everything, bad seed Bad seed

I walk in the city ​​and the city believes itself to be in danger
In indelible ink on my skin one can read: Stranger!

And I seek, but what am I seeking?
Someone who would help me, who would stretch out a hand, a pole
And I drag, bad seed, my desire to exist
Even if it means wanting to break everything, bad seed

And I'm looking, but what am I looking for?

Fold

 « If we allow the angel within us to speak to everyone, our existence will become a series of celestial encounters...

 (...) The world already lives so much in darkness... Let's open our hearts to strangers... Let's look for the angel in everyone, we will always be in divine company. »
(Karen Goldman, 'The Book of Angels')   magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Karen Goldman on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE or LIFE

 The following poem was transmitted in 1985 to the medium Léo Rosenblum. It is borrowed from the marvelous site of the Cyclamen Association :

Whites are often black,
And not always white are the blacks,
But all are brothers in God.

I remember, it was Sunday,
I was black, she was white,
And we met.

See more...

I suffered from my negritude,
She also from her loneliness,
And we consoled ourselves.

We had to love each other more,
More welded by seeing faces,
Which were only suppressed hatreds.
Disparaging reflections,
For me the negro, and his lover,
How humiliated we were!

"How vicious and vicious this bitch is,
To mate with this race,
Poor uprooted types."

My God that true and noble feelings
Are misunderstood, ignoble world,
How much we had to pay.

So many tears and suffering,
For my very short stay in France,
On the benches of the faculty.

Tired of reproaches and sarcasm,
We came up with the whimsical idea,
In my country, to return.

The reception at my place? Not better,
It was she who was colored,
She was rejected by all.

We held on...two years,
Assuming that in time,
tranquility would return.

It was counting without the madness,
Which is born suddenly in countries,
Because the coup d'etat has struck.

And when the days of rioting came,
This black people, like a pack,
Slaughtered us both.
The crime ? It was misalliance,
Breaking the law, what insolence!
For this we were condemned.

Anomaly, shame of the village
I still see the face,
And the martyrdom of my beloved.

That poor pathetic gaze,
Crushed with big cudgels,
And the vociferous cries.

I was black, she was white,
We met on a Sunday,
But I'm talking to you in the past tense.

We were covered with earth,
For it is to God...of all...The Father,
That our souls have gone.

There, among fields and flowers,
In beauty and happiness,
His angels comforted us.

In heaven, no difference
Race, skin, Africa, France,
It is for all of us, equality.

Is it necessary to die for people to understand,
Men nourished by so much hatred,
That the only noble act is to love?

Why notice on earth,
What fratricidal struggles and misery,
For lives so often cut short?

Our souls are at peace in this place,
By the mercy of God,
United in eternity.

I was black, she was white,
We met on a Sunday,
And our ordeals are over.
Fold

 « That tendency of men to form homogeneous groups which fear and avoid strangers, a tendency which provokes hatred and prejudice. »

«We must strive to reach out to those whose vibrations are different from ours. »
[ Brian L. Weiss, psychiatrist ]
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Floating picture «There are still fewer foreigners than racists in France. »
(Colouche)   magnifying glassAuthorColuche's contributions on:

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Who is this "I" speaking?

Our vision of the other  

Labor relations

The conflicts  

In the face of wickedness  

How to get out of it  

Develop inner strength  

My enemy, my friend

One hand washes the other...

Forgive ?

The friendship | The exchange


« What's the point of living if it's to spend your life doing a job you hate?! »

Labor relations

The social success
 ▪ The evil of power
 ▪ The importance of work well understood
The leader, the equality
 ▪ Flatteries & contempt
 ▪ Ingratitude, misunderstandings, injustices
 ▪ The little tyrants
The promiscuity
 ▪ The thoughts, the atmosphere

 The social success

The most sacred messages urge us to dedicate our lives to uplifting our souls. Wanting to shine or always possess more is going against the grain.
If you have a simple life, erased or even failed by the standards of this world, accept it humbly. Let the difficulties carry you, you will grow.

 « We make so much noise about material success! As long as we give as much consideration to those who have succeeded financially, socially, by presenting them everywhere in the newspapers, on the radio, on television, we will maintain in the others, less privileged, the feeling of being inferior, of not be interesting. »
( Omraam Mikhaël Aïvanhov, "The duty to be HAPPY")

 « At all times, vigilance.

 If we meet success and favorable situations, it is urgent to be attentive to stay awake . »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « Get in the habit of never again considering an earthly success as a gain. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 The evil of power

 « All power, from the smallest to the greatest, tends to slide from Good to Evil. »
[ Arnaud Gourvennec, celestial messages ]

 « When the goal of life is power, the ambitious subjugate their conscience to their appetite. The will to power call blind forces. They exist. For men who put these forces on their side, everything is success, everything seems to smile. But for these forces, the only thing that counts is the interest, the immediate pleasure; they leave as quickly as they came. »
[ "To those who seek" ]

 Setbacks, failures

 « Much of what we call 'depression' is actually dissatisfaction, the result of setting the bar way too high. I know people whose source of perpetual unhappiness was their weight, their baldness, their inability to find the ideal partner, when they were far from being one! »
 (Mitch Albom, "The Old Man Who Taught Me About Life")

 The real success

 « Success in life is above all a question of point of view. Take a look at this little grocer whom the old people he delivers to every week await like the messiah, for he enlightens their loneliness. »
(Allison Dubois (medium))magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Allison Dubois on the theme of:

The WAY, LIFE or DEATH

 The importance of work well understood

 « What matters to your soul is only who you are while you do, no matter what.

 Give up on results, but never, never on passion. Passion is the way. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « The greatness of a being resides in the quality that he brings to fulfilling himself in the place where he finds himself. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

  IT'S NOT THE WORK
THAT HAS TO CHANGE YOU,
  BUT YOU WHO HAVE TO CHANGE THE WORK.
[ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]

 « Perfection should not shrink from pain. Whoever is called to be a street sweeper must sweep as Michelangelo painted or as Beethoven composed or as Shakespeare wrote. He must sweep the streets so perfectly that the hosts of heaven and earth will stop to say:  "Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well." »
( Martin Luther King )magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Martin Luther King on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « Try to bring perfection to where you are and then enjoy the bliss of letting go of everything. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « The love of a job well done attracts light like a magnet. You always have to do the best. Even if you don't succeed, your desire to do well nourishes your soul with high vibrations. »
[ Sylvie Lorain-Berger, "The messengers from beyond" ]

 « All work is futile except where there is love;
 And what does it mean to work with love?
 It is infusing into all the things you make the essence of your spirit. »
 (Khalil Gibran, "The Prophet")

 « A trade, whatever it is, cannot be assimilated to an inferior task if it is well done. There is no high or low profession, there are only values.
 The greatness of a being resides in the quality he puts into fulfilling himself in the place where he finds himself. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

- I feel more and more how much I am not pure.
  How to help others in this state?

   EVERYTHING IS PURE WHICH IS IN ITS PLACE.
[ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]

 « It is not the function that honors the man, it is the man who honors the function. »
 ("Presences of Judaism")

 « A Rabbi begins by refusing to be a Rabbi; but once he has become so, he will be so even in his sleep. »
[Elie Wiesel, 'Hasidic Celebration']

  ☞  Failures, disappointments

  ☞  The effect of thought on events


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How to get out of it  

Develop inner strength  

My enemy, my friend

One hand washes the other...

Forgive ?

The friendship | The exchange

The leader, the equality

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  « A leader is good for nothing if, surrounded by all sorts of advice, he acts contrary to what his conscience dictates. He will soon drift like a ship without a rudder if he does not have his little inner voice to hold on and guide him. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « Constraint, once absolute, becomes invisible.

 If you divide your power and distribute it among all, you withdraw the dissolution of this power. If everyone chooses the location of the temple and brings their stone where they want, then you find a stony plain instead of a temple.

 The tree is hierarchy, but where do you see that one part dominates the other?

 Of course, the hierarchy that bullies you and prevents you from becoming is unjust. However you will go, to fight against this injustice, from destruction of architecture to destruction of architecture until the slack pond where the glaciers will be confused.

 You want them to be similar to each other, but I would say they are equal in serving the empire in the same way and not in resembling each other so much. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « The greatest injustice is to treat unequal things equally. »
(Aristotle (-384 to -322))

 « Brotherhood has no worse enemy here below than equality. »
(Gustave Thibon, of the French Academy)

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Criticism or flattery should have no hold on you.
Like a tree, be straight, constant, reliable.

Flatteries & contempt

 « Be true, authentic, no longer be afraid of the judgment of others. Accept yourself as you are and you will be fully accepted.

 Regardless of the judgment of others, the beings are so diverse and so contradictory. No matter how they feel about us. No matter the fame, the social recognition.

 If our attitude is right, none of this matters. Do your best, no failure can disturb your inner serenity. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « You doubt yourself, the slightest criticism puts you to flight; and when you look up, the truth hides behind a gathering of clouds.
 The true way to approach human difficulties is to approach them with a soul at peace; destructive forces recoil before serenity.
 If you are shrouded in troubled or restless vibrations, you are attracting disturbing currents. Calm calls for calm. So know how to master in yourself the childish nervousness caused by earthly anxieties.
 A shaking hand stirs ripples in still water.
 Be calm, this is the best way to ward off evil. The forces emanating from troubled minds, if they do not come up against walls of peace, do their work of destruction. And the stubbornness to think about the sticking points maintains them. It is a question of offering a plane surface to the harmful discharges which try to scramble the psychic harmony. The wave breaks against the rock. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « To realize himself, man must first remain faithful to his innermost, truest self☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Every being is connected to their inner Self,
which is connected to God.

 Our inner being

 « In you there are two characters, one terrestrial, stuck to matter, mired in its heaviness, and the other celestial, letting itself be carried by the light. The moment you conceive your two poles, you become greedy for unity and begin your quest for purity. But that's also where the trouble begins! In the innocence of unconsciousness you found a certain tranquility, operating in the same patterns for generations, fit to taste the pleasures of the flesh.
 However, as soon as your consciousness opens to greater lucidity, your thirst for clarity comes up against the shadows.
 In the grip of an existential despair, your mind then plays monumental tricks on you. You become the prey of grief, terrible doubts, loneliness and your impatience.
 We are with you more than ever in these wanderings. Because then we recognize in you the flame, the inner fire.

 Then begins an interior dialogue between your soul, which has already recognized us, and us who are your servants, your companions on the way. At your side, ready to support you in the difficult passages, smiling at your stammerings as a child of light.

 In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages"]
following...
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[Elie Wiesel, 'Hasidic Celebration']

 « There is an abyss between the honest man before men, and the honest man before God. »
[Message collected by Allan Kardec]

 « Respect the opinion of others, but only listen to yourself. » (your conscience, not your interests)
[ Sylvie Lorain-Berger, "The messengers from beyond" ]

 « The humiliations of this world cannot reduce your inner values. But neither praise nor glory can improve them either. »
[ Elisabeth Haich, "Initiation" ]

 « If you are congratulated, the first thing to do is to check whether these words about you are correct.
 Knowing your limits is essential. Nothing justifies pride, but having self-confidence is different. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

  Criticism -
  it is not a sign of what you are incapable of,
  but an image of what you are capable of.

 « Any criticism accepted is a powerful stimulus to mature. I became almost greedy for it. »
[ Gitta Mallasz, "The Dialogues, as I Experienced Them" ]

Floating picture «The way to please in society is to let everyone talk about themselves. »
(Arthur Schopenhauer)LoupeAuteurContributions by Arthur Schopenhauer on the theme of:

LIFE ou DEATH

Ingratitude, misunderstandings, injustices

«The wise question themselves, the fool questions others. »

( Chinese proverb )

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 « Do not try to make people understand your actions. My captains, in the desert – loyal in battle and generous of self – if they are recalled to the capital, are second in banquets and trampling in antechambers. "Bitter destiny, they say, of him who is not judged..." To which I answer: "Bitter destiny of him who is understood and who is carried in triumph and thanked and honored and enriched." It soon swells and trades its starry nights for merchandise. Yet he was richer than the others, and nobler and more marvelous.

 Why does this one who reigned in his solitude submit to the opinion of sedentary people? The old carpenter finds in the polish of his plank the reward for his work. And if it suffers from being forgotten, it is because it is not pure enough.

 Those long-clothed blue fish, if you lay them on the shore, it's unfair that they're ugly. But the fault lies with you: they were made for underwater radiation. They were beautiful where the shore ends. And the captains of the sands too are beautiful only where the cartage of cities, the supply of merchants and vanity dies. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « All my life I've been used to people being wrong about me. I have made it a rule never to intervene to correct this kind of error, unless required by the cause I am defending.

 So let those who feel like it, denounce the impostor they believe they see in me. I must admit that I am delighted at the idea of ​​being blackballed from my pedestal in this way. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « Don't be afraid of being judged, criticized, disliked perhaps. Fear only your own judgement, your conscience. »
[ Sylvie Lorain-Berger, "The messengers from beyond" ]

 « You can only be yourself by being no one else. You have to give up "their" approval, whatever they are, and rely on yourself to judge success or failure according to your own values. Nothing is simpler and nothing is more difficult. »
[ Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ]

 « That one will not be repaid by a tender word, but neither will he be frustrated by insult. It is not a matter of an accounting enterprise where a tender word adds and an insult subtracts.
 He who has returned from the desert, decorations cannot pay for him, for the same reason that ingratitude cannot frustrate him. Because where do you see that it is a question of acquiring and possessing when it is only a question of becoming, of finally being, and of dying in the plenitude of its substance? Tell yourself that the reward first is death which finally casts off the ship. Happy is he who is heavy with treasures! »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « Any man who acts finds detractors along the way. Man cannot build himself otherwise. We prefer the reckless who are willing to pay for what they do, than the cowards who take refuge in irresponsibility.

 (...) Whoever devotes himself to the defense of peace will encounter war. The defender will suffer defeat, and the just man will face injustice. The religious will be the prey of temptations, and until the final stage, the sage will experience doubt and anguish. »
[ "To those who seek" ]

Earth is a land of endurance and traps, a plane of purification.


 The little tyrants

 « The tyrant will find in me a resistance of the soul which will escape his embrace. This resistance will first blind him and then force him to bow. And bowing down will not humiliate the aggressor, but elevate him. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « The warrior who falls on a small tyrant is very lucky. Nothing can quench a warrior's soul better than the challenge of dealing with impossible people in positions of power. Only such conditions can make warriors acquire the moderation and serenity necessary to bear the weight of the unknowable.
 The strategy of using a petty bully is effective and clever. Such a strategy not only succeeds in making a clean sweep of pride; it also prepares warriors for the decisive realization that blamelessness is the only thing that matters on the path to knowledge. »
(Carlos Castaneda, "The Fire Within")

 « No one can climb on a man's back unless he bends his spine. »
( Gandhi )

 ☞☞ Cf. below "My enemy, my friend"

The promiscuity

 « Any relationship, anything that makes you feel duality, is an opportunity to grow. »
[ Arnaud Desjardins, 'Yoga and spirituality' ]

 « He who puts up with the creatures that cause him difficulties goes ahead, and sometimes even drags others with him. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « This body is only a fraction of what we really are. Reconnecting to this other part of us gives tremendous self-confidence. Life here on earth takes on a whole new dimension and resembles a theater that must be played correctly, sincerely, as well as possible. What matters is not to be at the top of the bill or on the front of the stage, it is to evolve and move forward in the midst of others.

 One of the difficulties of our passage here below is that we are all mixed up. Before we incarnated, we were in a dimension corresponding to our spiritual frequency and to those whose company we sought. However, we must all live together on the same planet, rub shoulders even with those who harm us, make our way through frequencies of all kinds. »
[ Patricia Darré (medium) ]

 The thoughts, the atmosphere

 « Many of today's illnesses are not only caused by air, water and food pollution, but also by mental pollution.
 The human being would manage to neutralize all the external poisons, it is internally that one is the most vulnerable. »
( Omraam Mikhaël Aïvanhov, "The duty to be HAPPY")

 « People project vibrations, there is a kind of marriage of fluids in the invisible. Also seek the company of those who together can rejoice in wholesome things. Beware of bad atmospheres. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « Better is grass for food where love reigns, than a fat ox where hate reigns. »
( Proverbs XV, 17 )

 « Some thoughts are poisonous. The bitterness of others are so many clouds in your sky. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « Unknowingly, you could take on someone else's apprehensions, like a sponge soaking up water. A generous nature attracts people willing to pour out their troubles on her. They feel relieved of a burden after talking about their worries. On the other hand, it exhausts you, so you must purify your energy field: avoid places where people drink alcohol and other drugs . These environments attract deceased people attached to the earth. Avoid places with ego-infused mentalities, as well as groups with questionable morals. »
[Doreen Virtue, "Communicating with Angels"]

 « Beware of those who think they know everything. Flee their presence. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « We cannot satisfy the needs of immature and unreasonable beings. Staying with them is often a waste of time. It is important to understand that they act dominated by their emotions and their passions; so we should feel compassion for them. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « Make yourself a shield of light. Whenever you talk to an ego-infused person, always demand the truth; don't allow yourself to see this person's fears as real. Listen with kindness, as if she were describing a movie that scared her terribly. Have compassion in the face of his emotions, while knowing that the origin of his fear is unreal.

 If you feel exhausted or irritable, you may be imbued with darkness. You have probably identified with someone's fears and worries, and thus imbibed their dark energies by becoming one with them through your empathy. A simple appeal to God in a quiet place will settle this effect of the absence of love. »
[Doreen Virtue, "Communicating with Angels"]

 « He promised: If you call Me, I will hear ("Knock and it will be opened to you"). This is protection. »
[a reading by Edgar Cayce]


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One hand washes the other...

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The friendship | The exchange

« To start a quarrel is to open a dike. »

( Proverbs XVII, 14 )

The conflicts

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Oppositions, disagreements
The difficult relationships
How to approach them

  « I'm a little tired of looking at you. All your combinations of rabid spiders outplaying each other are boring. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « As long as each man, each woman, each child has not deeply integrated the desire for harmony, the causes of confrontation will remain. So goes man, regenerating himself in his own suffering and seeking to overcome its causes. »
[ "To those who seek" ]

Those whose failings shock us :
  . or we help them (if we can do it)
  . or we avoid them (if we cannot help them)
  . either we support them (if we can neither help nor avoid them)

 « This terrified fox who bites your fingers when you feed him, are you going to blame him for being locked up in his terror and his hatred? Do you consider as an affront such a gesture or such a word when you just have to forget the words and the vain meaning they convey to find God through them? »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « What gives rise to conflict is rarely the idea itself, but the different terminology used. »
[ R. Bernard, Grand Master of the Rose Croix ]

 « When someone makes you angry, know that it is your judgment that makes you angry. »
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 « Don't always take sides with yourself; how do you not tire of being your eternal defender? »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 The difficult relationships

 « Any man who acts finds detractors along the way, allies ready to betray him, unfaithful friends. It doesn't matter; that your soul is pure, your intentions sincere, you will find the Force. »
[ "To those who seek" ]

 « Each soul attracts the circumstances that allow it to come face to face with itself. Therefore, our relationships with people usually present a number of difficulties. Instead of considering these as external to ourselves, realize that we are responsible for what happens to us. We create our own reality through our choices and actions. »
[according to readings by Edgar Cayce]

 - Relationships are not easy.

 - There is only one way: GIVE. And not receive.
  It's only from HIM you can receive.
  As long as you feel a lack,
  that's what you want to receive.
  Everything is given to you, if you do not leave the path.
[ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]

 How to approach them

 « I have only one wish: make sure that I don't use my reason against the truth. »
[Elie Wiesel, 'Hasidic Celebration']

I am sometimes able to absorb the blows, but I still have the weakness when I am attacked, to raise the shield; to defend myself or send back evil.

 « Non-violence is the law of our species, as violence is the law of animals. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « You can only kill hatred with love, destroy injustice with justice, selfishness with altruism, violence with gentleness. »
[ Celestial Messages from Pierre Monnier ]

 « In fighting against the external enemy, the internal enemy is neglected.

 A conflict, settled according to the principles of non-violence, leaves no rancor between the enemies and makes them friends. »
(Gandhi)

 « In case of conflict, dialogue, dialogue, dialogue, solutions will come to you.

 (...) In case of problem do not be passive, look for a solution. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « Do not seek to be understood, seek to understand. »
[ R. Bernard, Grand Master of the Rose Croix ]

 « Silence is a sketchy meditation: when you avoid answering, you have time to go into yourself. Silence can be the rock against which the waves break in vain…remember the silence of Jesus before those who claimed to judge him.
 Install silence as a basis of love. Replace the riposte or the thoughtless word with a prayer.
 Of course, there are times when you have no right to be silent, but keep silent when the evil words of human wickedness implicate you personally, when anger comes to you, when it comes to defend your self-esteem or your pride.

 Learn to make silence a breastplate against evil, a weapon for good. »
[ Celestial Messages from Pierre Monnier ]

 « In every interaction with another person, call upon LOVE who is within her. This is your job. Tenderness for a brother will flood you like a resonance into which no darkness can penetrate. For no darkness can reside within joy. It is enough for the beam of light radiating from your heart into his to warn your brother of his dormant holiness.

 Do not resort to words, but to a smile. Do not seek action, but rather a thought. At this minute, you are now able to cure your brother of anything that scares him! You have all the skill to erase all the bad feelings that monopolize the hearts of others! Use this power! Don't be afraid to fill yourself with love
☆ Excerpt from the page: "Love" :

 Love is the essence of life

 « Love, this divine light, this original vibration, is an incessant flow, celestial nourishment. Love, the lack of which is the source of all evil, is the all-powerful energy which bathes the world. She passes through you according to what you are able to let pass, to collect, to offer.
 You imagine yourself incapable of loving your enemies or your personal asperities. But it is not through your will that you can love with that love. She is in the abandonment of yourself, because this Love does not come from you. She is not born from your heart. She is offered to you without discrimination. You just need to open yourself to it and share it without hoarding it for yourself. Then you will love without the will to love. Then you will no longer say: "I don't like So-and-so; he is my enemy." Then you will be full of tenderness for weaknesses, shortcomings.

 Each form of love is a fragment of this immense incandescence in which the world is bathed, in which you yourselves are bathed. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages" ]
 « The most powerful cement that can unite men is love. At the highest spiritual level it triggers Communion, this natural fusion which opens the door to the Whole. »
[ "To those who seek" ]

following...
for someone else. Open your heart wide and envelop each being with a loving gaze, just like the angels who watch over each of you. Because our work and yours are one. »
[Doreen Virtue, "Communicating with Angels"]

 « It is better to be the one who suffered than the one who struck. »
[ Message collected by Maguy Lebrun ]

 « Better to suffer the insult than to commit it. »
 (Socrates (470-399 BC))

 « The way of love can cause continual suffering and require me to cultivate infinite patience. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « The angels remind us that every negative feeling we have towards another has a backfire effect. The anger we send out acts like a ray pointed at a mirror that instantly comes back to hit us. »
[Doreen Virtue, "Communicating with Angels"]

 ☞ Personal experience

  If you lift your heart very high,
  darkness can do nothing against you.

  Do not correct the bad,
  but increase the good,
  it will absorb the bad around it.
  There is good in everyone.

  Compliment!
  Praise in everyone what is praiseworthy.
  True praise builds.
  You will see miracles.
  But never embellish or lie,
  even with good intentions.

  Do not fight against disease,
  but strengthen the healthy,
  it is not the same thing.
[ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]

 « Waiting for the other to take the first step is to think that you are superior to that person. »
[ Dalai Lama ]
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 To defend myself is to leave the floor to my ego. It is to forget my trust in God.
 To expose myself in silence is, on the contrary, to abandon myself to Him. It is an act of love. And the circle of hate is broken.



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Forgive ?

The friendship | The exchange

In the face of wickedness

How to get out
Knowledge of the human soul
Mistakes we've been through
Seeing and accepting yourself

When someone behaves badly or aggressively, it's either that he's in pain or that his mind isn't really aware of the harm he's doing.

 « Those around you can't help but behave the way they do☆ Excerpt from the page: "Why life" :

 The progression of the human soul

Every soul starts from the bottom of the ladder.
From instinct to consciousness, it rises.
From the satisfaction of her desires to the happiness of giving, she rises.
And the path is long and marked with suffering.

 « If different minds conceive such different truths, it is because evolution is not the same in everyone. »
(Gandhi)

 « The Spirit, like man, also has its childhood.
At their origin, the Spirits have only an instinctive existence and are barely aware of themselves and their actions. »
[Message collected by Allan Kardec]

 « If you don't feel ready to forgive someone's actions, at least forgive the person. (Tell yourself that his still animal conscience is not awake, but that his soul is nonetheless a reflection of God). »
[Doreen Virtue, "Communicating with Angels"]

. You prefer to judge them, but by judging them, you will only get the worst out of them. Your challenge is to accept people as they are. »
(Carlos Castaneda, "The Definitive Journey")

 « Behind hardness hides a suffering heart, which prefers to imprison itself in its solitude. Those who lock themselves in this armor are angry with the whole earth. »
[ Michèle Decker, "Life on the Other Side" ]

 « I'm too far above this fox who suffers from the trap from too far away not to hear through the cries of disorder his simple despair. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « One understands evil only insofar as one escapes it; you can't do it and understand it on the same level. »
(Gustave Thibon, of the French Academy)

 Knowledge of the human soul

 « Wickedness comes from ignorance. »
[ Maguy Lebrun ]

 « Pity with all your heart evil beings, they are 'unrealized' beings.
 The whole earth is populated by these unfortunates who shamelessly show the leprosy of their inner life, do not judge them, they are unhappy men. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « If someone hurts you, shows wickedness, anger, cruelty, tell yourself that he is a little advanced spirit on the path of spiritual evolution and that you too have passed through this stage.
 Be indulgent, show kindness to those who have not yet understood the essentials. Do not react to the attacks of the other, nor to their negative vibrations. Listen to the voice of your conscience. »
[ Alain Joseph Bellet, 'Dialogues with the spirit world' ]

 ☞  The mystery of the human soul

Mistakes we've been through

We are shocked by an evil act, we judge it harshly. We must however realize that our soul being in constant evolution... we have necessarily acted in the same way in the past.

 « Don't be quick to judge others. Avoid judgment, because what is "wrong" for another today is what was "right" for you yesterday. His mistakes are your own past actions, now corrected. His choices are as hurtful and harmful, as selfish and unforgivable as many of your choices have been. When you can't imagine how another person could "do such a thing", you forgot where you came from.

 You are all in the process of becoming, you are all going through the experience of evolution. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « When I see a man fall into error or vice, I tell myself that this also happened to me, not so long ago. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « Aren't we all, of ourselves, already fallen from the Height, so many times? »
[ Arnaud Gourvennec, celestial messages ]

 ☞  The evolution of the human soul

 ☞ How to protect yourself from evil

 See each other and accept each other

Who is aware of his weaknesses understands those of others;
who never questions himself is implacable.

 « If someone looks at us as his enemy, we are the first responsible. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

The angel: You are thought ill of.
Lili: Did I wrong someone?
The angel: This is only possible.
[ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]

 « Look at yourself constantly, have a mirror always before your soul. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « When you complain of being the victims of the ill-treatment of your neighbour, you should, before accusing others, go back to the source of your actions; it is then that with astonishment you will discover that you are the author of your setbacks. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « It is good to confess your mistakes. As a good sweep leaves the place cleaner, it is necessary to retrace your steps following an error in orientation.

 Just as a man cannot see himself from behind, he is not aware of his own errors.

 I admit that I have often been wrong in my estimates and my judgments... However, each time because I agreed to retrace my steps, no irreparable damage was caused. On the contrary, the truth came out brighter than ever. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

Let's grant others a little of this benevolence with which we gratify our clumsiness.

 « I can truthfully say that I am slow to see the faults of my fellow men. Having my own faults I need the charity of others. I learned not to judge anyone harshly and to make allowances for the faults that I sometimes notice. »
(Gandhi)

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My enemy, my friend

One hand washes the other...

Forgive ?

The friendship | The exchange

How to get out of it of conflict

We have to elevate our thinking.

Do not react at the same level
Postpone your reaction
Explain yourself with control
Refuse fear - the enemy of love
Strive to understand
To be stronger than evil
Call to heaven

 Do not react at the same level

 « A 'bad guy', as people call him, can only harm a person of a higher level in material terms, but never by his radiations because they have no upward power. On the other hand, they can harm downwards, at the lower levels, particularly by his "evil eye". »
[ Elisabeth Haich, "Initiation" ]

 « Send love to others and the reflection of that love will come back to you. »
[ Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ]

 « Let all who have ears listen. For I tell you this: at the critical juncture, in all human relationships, there is only one question:

   "What would love do in that case?"

 No other question is relevant, no other question matters to your soul. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « Everything can be crowned with love.
 Be aware of the need to observe the smallest acts of your life in this revealing light. »
[ Celestial Messages from Pierre Monnier ]

 Postpone your reaction

 « The Gastiner Rabbe made it a rule never to express his displeasure on the very day someone upset him. The next day he said to the man: You pained me yesterday. »
 ("Presences of Judaism")

 « Sister Sarah had the wisdom, when I started to get carried away, never to contradict me. Later, when she saw me more in control of myself, she took up the subject again with a smile: “ Emmanuelle, don't you think your project needs to be discussed? »
('Sister Emmanuelle's Farewell')magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Sister Emmanuelle on the theme of:

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 Explain yourself with control

 « A gentle response calms the fury. »
( Proverbs XV, 1 )

 « A violent man stirs up quarrels, but one who is slow to anger calms disputes. »
( Proverbs XV, 18 )

 « To obtain a decisive result it is not enough to convince reason; it is also necessary to touch the heart. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « Never think or speak to an adversary or suspected enemy without first enveloping him in light. Barricade yourself in the light. »
[a reading by Edgar Cayce]

 « When you painfully receive what someone has said or done, the first thing is to confess, honestly and precisely, how you feel. Too often you fear doing it because you fear it will "blacken" your image. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 Refuse fear - the enemy of love

 « In situations where you are being abused, you will stop the abuse. It will be good for you and for the abuser. Because it's damaging to the abuser to allow them to continue. Despots must not be allowed to prosper: their despotism must be stopped. love of self☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Every being is connected to their inner Self,
which is connected to God.

 Our inner being

 « In you there are two characters, one terrestrial, stuck to matter, mired in its heaviness, and the other celestial, letting itself be carried by the light. The moment you conceive your two poles, you become greedy for unity and begin your quest for purity. But that's also where the trouble begins! In the innocence of unconsciousness you found a certain tranquility, operating in the same patterns for generations, fit to taste the pleasures of the flesh.
 However, as soon as your consciousness opens to greater lucidity, your thirst for clarity comes up against the shadows.
 In the grip of an existential despair, your mind then plays monumental tricks on you. You become the prey of grief, terrible doubts, loneliness and your impatience.
 We are with you more than ever in these wanderings. Because then we recognize in you the flame, the inner fire.

 Then begins an interior dialogue between your soul, which has already recognized us, and us who are your servants, your companions on the way. At your side, ready to support you in the difficult passages, smiling at your stammerings as a child of light.

 In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages"]
following...
and the despot's love (for his own advancement) require it. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « Where fear reigns the tyrant prospers. »
[ "To those who seek" ]

 Strive to understand

 « Force them to build a tower together and you'll turn them into brothers. But if you want them to hate each other, throw grain at them.

 A civilization rests on what is demanded of men, not on what is provided to them.

 When the mold takes hold in the wheat, look for it outside the wheat, change the granary. When men hate each other, don't listen to the presentation of the reasons they have for hating each other, they have just as many reasons for loving each other.

 I will not be able to cure them by the exercise of my justice. It could only harden their reasons, by founding the resentment of those whom I would find wrong and the arrogance of those whom I would find right.

 Learn to listen not to the wind of words nor to the reasoning that allows them to be wrong. Learn to look beyond. If each stone is in its place and serves the temple, then only the silence born of them counts. And who hears that we speak of stones? »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « You have to divert your adversary from error with patience and kindness. This work of patience means that one makes fall on oneself all the necessary sufferings. Thus the truth must make itself known not by the sufferings that one inflicts on others, but by those that one imposes on oneself. »
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 To be stronger than evil

 « Strive to overcome the adversary with love. This law is more effective than violence. I can get angry, but I've almost always managed to control myself. I can allow myself to be surprised, but I try to remain faithful to the demands of these inner struggles. The more I dedicate myself to it, the more joy I have in living. This is proof that this law conforms to the plan of the universe. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

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 - Can we put an end to the animosity that some feel towards us?

 « Yes, by returning good for evil, they end up understanding their faults; moreover, if one knows how to put oneself above their machinations, they cease when they see that they gain nothing by it. »
[Message collected by Allan Kardec]

 « Return good for evil, go beyond the stage of instincts. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « Return good for evil. »(Krishna)

 There is always a traitor among the twelve. It's the most unfortunate.

 - Can I do something against the Judas, or should I let them?

 - Keep the fire going! Keep it ! Don't worry about anything else!
 If you lift your heart very high, darkness can do nothing against you.
[ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]

 Call to heaven

 « When we are in a delicate situation that does not depend on us, we must ask our guardian angel to go see the guardian angels of people capable of solving the problem so that they can prompt them with a solution. »
[ Patricia Darré (medium) ]

  ☞  Help from Heaven

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Recognizing your mistake or your clumsiness is a strength.
A force that resolves many conflicts,
and brings closer people together instead of keeping them away.

Develop inner strength
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Take action on yourself

Act on yourself
A new vision
A new vision on yourself too
The right attitude
Live with others

  « By changing himself, man can change the world which surrounds him and which weighs on his destiny.

 It is necessary to work first on the individual self by isolating it from the rest. »
[Elie Wiesel, 'Hasidic Celebration']

 « Acting on the world first requires acting on oneself and establishing peace within oneself. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « By working on ourselves, the situation will change by itself. »
[ Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ]

« Since we attract like-minded people, others begin to react differently to us when we transform.

 Any relationship can be improved, because we have the ability to change ourselves. »
[according to a reading by Edgar Cayce]

 « There is only one way to break the circle of violence: to wean the adversary from his error through sympathy, understanding, patience. And patience involves personal suffering. »
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 « Welcome evil within you and transform it into good. »
[ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]

 « Whoever wishes to develop his strength should not fear resistance; he must meet the wind of contrary opinions and stay in touch with what does not suit his tastes and even harmonize with what seems hostile, because it is really his friend, since he finds a contribution of strength there. He must learn to endure slander, animosity, envy and opposition.
 The more the animal elements of the human constitution are stimulated, the hotter the battle will be, and the stronger will become man's reason if he resists successfully. »
(Dr. F. Hartmann, "An Adventure Among the Rose-Croix")

A new vision

« From the mountain I climb,
I see condition where they see litigation. »

[ Saint-Exupéry ]

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 « Depending on the point of view adopted, events will only bring you constraints and conflicts or, on the contrary, the opportunity to strengthen your patience and your inner strength. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « I advise you not to argue, it leads nowhere. And those who refuse your truths in the name of their own evidence, tell yourself that in the name of your own evidence, if you argue against them, you refuse their truth. Accept them. Take them by the hand and guide them. Tell them,
 "You're right, let's climb the mountain though." »

 Because they are right. But lead them higher on their mountain.

 If I choose the mountain which decides between men according to their right to provisions, my justice will be different from another mountain which would otherwise decide between men. There is no justice, but an infinite number. I will always find a questionable quality scale that will show me my error according to another. So I don't mind being shown that my decisions are unfair.

 Depending on the chosen mountain, your convicts will become your saints. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

I like people. I have so many faults to share with them...

 « There is a way to be happy in personal relationships: it is to use them for the purpose for which they exist and not for the purpose you have designed.

 Personal relationships are a constant challenge; they are constantly calling you to create, express and live larger visions of yourself, more and more magnificent versions of yourself. Nowhere else will you do it more immediately, with more impact.

 In fact, it is only through your relationship with other people, places or events that you can exist in the universe. Remember: in the absence of everything else you do not exist. You are what you are only in relation to another.

 When you have clearly understood this, when you have deeply grasped it, you will feel intuitively grateful for each of your experiences, all encounters and especially personal relationships, for you will find them constructive in the highest sense. You will see that they serve (whether you like it or not) to build Who You Really Are
☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Every being is connected to their inner Self,
which is connected to God.

 Our inner being

 « In you there are two characters, one terrestrial, stuck to matter, mired in its heaviness, and the other celestial, letting itself be carried by the light. The moment you conceive your two poles, you become greedy for unity and begin your quest for purity. But that's also where the trouble begins! In the innocence of unconsciousness you found a certain tranquility, operating in the same patterns for generations, fit to taste the pleasures of the flesh.
 However, as soon as your consciousness opens to greater lucidity, your thirst for clarity comes up against the shadows.
 In the grip of an existential despair, your mind then plays monumental tricks on you. You become the prey of grief, terrible doubts, loneliness and your impatience.
 We are with you more than ever in these wanderings. Because then we recognize in you the flame, the inner fire.

 Then begins an interior dialogue between your soul, which has already recognized us, and us who are your servants, your companions on the way. At your side, ready to support you in the difficult passages, smiling at your stammerings as a child of light.

 In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages"]
following...
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[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « What does your conscience say? You have to become who you are. »
(Friedrich Nietzsche)

 « In every group is the disturbing element. It's about understanding it. »
[ "To those who seek" ]

 The Kotzker Rebbe said,  « Do not hate the man who has wronged you. He has offended you with what is bad about him, but perhaps what is good about him is greater than what is good about you. »
("Presences of Judaism")

 « I would have to shelter all the men with their luggage. I am tired of strangling, lest they ruin my work, those whom I do not know how to cover. Knowing that they threaten others and the questionable benefits of my provisional truth, but also knowing them to be noble and also bearers of truth.

 I do not impose peace. I legitimate my enemy and his grudge if I limit myself to subjugating him.

 To build peace is to build the stable big enough for the whole herd to sleep in. It is to build the palace large enough to accommodate all men without amputating them. And this one shy and tender, and the other eager to live, and the other perhaps hunchbacked, puny and unwelcome. All in their diversity move the heart and serve the glory of God. Certainly nothing is obvious, but it would be too easy to make peace if they were already similar. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « Oh ! if all men could see what is in them! They would no longer hate each other, they could no longer be afraid of each other! There are no bad people! They hurt themselves because they believe that others mean them harm and they defend themselves even before they are attacked, out of fear. They thus give others a good reason to think that they have bad intentions. If we could convince them that they only act like this out of mutual fear, and not out of malice, they would be reassured and could shake hands. »
[ Elisabeth Haich, "Initiation" ]

 « How many lifetimes will we have to live before realizing that the essential purpose of our passages on earth is to be able to develop, at each opportunity, our capacity to understand the other, to listen to him, to advise him, to heal its wounds? So that one day we can love unconditionally. »
[ Alain Joseph Bellet (medium) ]

A new vision on yourself too

Every evening, check in with yourself

« Every night seeks the truth. »
(Heavenly message received by Jürgenson)

 « The personal issues that taint our happiness have grown and evolved with us; they are knots that reveal the difficulties encountered throughout a past life. To undo these knots, a wave of a magic wand is not enough, and there is no ready-made answer. The answer is always a path, a work on oneself, where one must be ready to question oneself, to get out of the "victimization" behind which we tend to take refuge. »
[ Patricia Darré (medium) ]

In the evening, before going to sleep, let's take stock of our day.

 « In moments of isolation, one should strive to consider and judge the events of one's own life and one's own actions as if they were not our doing, but that of others.
  If we succeed in this, all our personal experiences appear to us in a new light. »
[ Rudolf Steiner ]

 « It is extremely important to take the time to review our thoughts, our feelings. A regular recapitulation of what we are experiencing contributes to our conscious evolution.

 (...) Let us remember that our attitudes contribute in a very powerful way to the quality of our life. This mixture of thoughts and feelings works like a magnet in the spiritual plane. »
[ Ellen Tadd (medium) ]

 « Living each day as if it were your last would force you to realize the importance of being on the right path☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

What is the way?

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  « What all religious or esoteric teachings call the way, is for those who are tired of being wrong.

 The path begins with a complete reversal of our way of seeing. When you have known enough rich, admired and unhappy men and women, you know that money and success do not bring happiness and that there must be "something" to understand and find. Conversely, how many people without beauty, without notoriety, are nevertheless relaxed, at peace and happy. There are people who are both fulfilled and desperate, and people who are disgraced or crippled, but radiant with joy. Happiness or suffering only apparently depends on external conditions. Happiness or misfortune are the expression of what we are, not the result of what we have.

 The important thing is not to have but to be.

 The sage is free from desire. He stopped opposing what we like to what we don't like.

 The one who, on the contrary, can feel himself to be only on the condition of having is necessarily in competition with those who also covet to have what he desires. For him there is neither rest nor peace. To have does not only mean to have money or material goods, but all that is combined with this verb: to have knowledge, prestige, honors, original ideas, an ideal, an ideology, experiences, friends, admirers, everything that we can say "my", everything that can give the illusion of filling the inner void and the nullity of being. »
[ Arnaud Desjardins, 'The paths of wisdom' ]

 « The way is a huge hospital where those who have recognized and accepted the fact of their illness meet. This disease is the disease of the ego, of individualism, which imprisons us in the duality of desires and refusals. »
[ Arnaud Desjardins, 'The paths of wisdom' ]

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[ Alain Joseph Bellet, 'Dialogues with the spirit world' ]

 « (...) The best thing is to take a step back, to observe yourself from the outside. »
[ Patricia Darré (medium) ]

 ☞  Self-analysis

 ☞  The wake-sleep moment

The right attitude

« If someone owes you money and they can't pay you,
don't walk past them. »

(Presences of Judaism, 'The Straight Path')
***
 « Do not be a fly on your neighbor's wound, seeking the wound and neglecting the healthy body. Cover your neighbor's wound and reveal it to no one. »
(Rabbi Eliezer the Great (11th century))

 « When someone says something positive, approve of it. If she does a good deed, praise her. Do not hesitate to praise her in her absence, and rejoice in the praise that is given to her. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « I seek to agree not with my previous statements but with the truth as it presents itself to me at a given moment. This attitude allowed me to evolve from truth to truth, and to spare my memory useless efforts.

 You don't draw your life as a straight line. It is made up of duties, which are very often contradictory. A multitude of forces influence our lives. Navigation would be easier if, from a single generative principle, all the decisions to be made could be automatically deduced.

 My demand for Truth has taught me the beauty of compromise. »
(Gandhi)magnifying glassAuthorContributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

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 « To go towards the other is to communicate with him, to help him without assisting him. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « We must strive to reach out to those who have different vibrations from ours. It's okay to be attracted to someone who has the same vibes as you, but that's not the right way to go. On the contrary, we must reach out to people whose vibrations are opposed to ours… It is important to help them. »
[ Brian L. Weiss, psychiatrist ]

 Live with others

 « Those around you can't help but behave the way they do. You prefer to judge them, but by judging them, you will only get the worst out of them. Your challenge is to accept people as they are. »
(Carlos Castaneda, "The Definitive Journey")

 « He who loves all men through God, loves each man infinitely more than he who loves only one and simply extends to his accomplice the miserable field of his person. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « Love God in every being. »
[ Elisabeth Haich, "Initiation" ]

 « Trust in man and seek in him the child of God. »
[ Arnaud Gourvennec, celestial messages ]

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If we deplore an attitude,
let us try not to reproduce it.


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Is he an enemy?

(Enrico Macías)


Is he an enemy or is he a brother
The one who fell with me?
And both wounded, lying in the dust,
My hand joins his hand without knowing why

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I weep, so does he; I share with him
The same anguish at the edge of the night
Our eyes say to each other, without speaking
How to understand each other, how to understand a stranger?

We no longer fight over this poor corner of the earth
Everything seems so small before the great Law
Is he an enemy or is he a brother
The one who holds my hand for the last time?

And in the growing shadow he escapes from here
When I close my eyes to him forever
He forgives me, I forgive him
I want to survive, I want to follow him further than life

Wait for me! Wait for me! Wait for me!
Farther than the earth
Wait for me! Wait for me! Wait for me
Up in the sky
Fold

My enemy, my friend

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  « It is not necessary to distinguish what ravages you from what founds you, because it is the same wind which sculpts the dunes and erases them, the same wave which sculpts the cliff and collapses it, the same constraint which sculpt your soul or stultify it.

 Your enemy forces you to build yourself up. Without enemy you have neither form nor measure.

 There is no enemy in the world. The enemy limits you, therefore gives you your form and founds you.

 Certainly the enemy who founds you, at the same time limits you. But remove the enemy and you can't even be born.

 I have no enemies. In the enemy I consider the friend. And he becomes. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « Beyond your universe of duality, understand that what appears to be an obstacle and an enemy is actually a friend that Fate disguises because it places you in front of your own image. »
(D. Meurois and A. Givaudan, 'Par l’esprit du Soleil')magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Anne Givaudan on the theme of:

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That is why

 « Anyone who leads us to develop patience should be considered a friend. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « My beloved enemy is the condition of myself, for the ship would have no form without the sea. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « Whoever wishes to develop his strength should not fear resistance; he must meet the wind of contrary opinions and stay in touch with what does not suit his tastes, and even harmonize with what is hostile to him, because he is really his friend, since he finds there a contribution of strength. He must learn to endure slander, animosity, envy and opposition.

 He alone who can create in his mental sphere the conditions required by his spirit is independent of all external conditions, and free.

 The true ascetic is he who lives in the world, surrounded by its temptations; the one in which the animal elements are always active, but which masters them by the power of its will. »
(Dr. F. Hartmann, "An Adventure Among the Rose-Croix")

 « As unsympathetic as the people we have relationships with, these are probably the people we needed the most. Those who apparently do not suit us at all can often turn out to be our greatest teachers. »
[ Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ]

 « He who expresses his suffering through violent acts, hurtful words is a precious good. We must consider it a treasure. So are those who behave selfishly. They teach us to surpass ourselves, to understand. They are our masters on the way.

Our most precious masters are our enemies. This is not just a basic Buddhist teaching. Our friends can help us in a thousand ways, but only our enemies can provide us with the challenge we need to develop fearlessness, inner strength and patience, the essential virtues for character building. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « Each personal relationship, nurture it as an extraordinary thing, as an opportunity to shape Who You Choose to Be now. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « When you step onto the Path, your enemies are paramount. They represent a unique opportunity, a chance to progress by helping you develop patience and tolerance.

 A teacher can give us a theoretical idea of ​​patience, but only the enemy gives us the opportunity to exercise it. We only really go into practice when we come into contact with it. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « The other, the one who shoots an arrow at you, always offers you a way to reconcile with your memory (you are a body-memory: the film strip of all your pasts, but also that of your relationships with others). »
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Message received from a man who died as a result of the actions of a "friend":

 « An enemy is also a tool of Heaven. We are all tools for each other. »
[ Sylvie Lorain-Berger, "The messengers from beyond" ]

 « This one in her disloyalty and her deviations, demanded more of me and forcing me to live in the silence which is a sign of true love, gave me a taste for eternity. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « Do not rejoice at the fall of your enemies, neither gloat, lest God see you and reprove you. »
(Proverbs, XXIV, 17)

« Not only should we wish our enemies no ill, but we should even wish them well because we must wholeheartedly return good for evil. »
[ Franchezzo Farnèze & Pierre Jovanovic "The explorer of the beyond" ]

 « If, in all circumstances, you took the trouble to substitute yourself in the place of your adversaries, you would probably no longer have enemies. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]


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One hand washes the other...

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  « Always alone, locked inside me in front of me. And I have no hope of getting out of my solitude by myself. Stone has no hope of being anything other than stone. But by collaborating, it assembles and becomes a temple. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « If the soul came to the body, and the body to life, it is in order to evolve. And you use your relationship with everything to determine what you are becoming.

 To become, consciously, what you wish to be is the task you have come to accomplish. You brought your Self into the relative world in order to experience Who You Really Are
☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Every being is connected to their inner Self,
which is connected to God.

 Our inner being

 « In you there are two characters, one terrestrial, stuck to matter, mired in its heaviness, and the other celestial, letting itself be carried by the light. The moment you conceive your two poles, you become greedy for unity and begin your quest for purity. But that's also where the trouble begins! In the innocence of unconsciousness you found a certain tranquility, operating in the same patterns for generations, fit to taste the pleasures of the flesh.
 However, as soon as your consciousness opens to greater lucidity, your thirst for clarity comes up against the shadows.
 In the grip of an existential despair, your mind then plays monumental tricks on you. You become the prey of grief, terrible doubts, loneliness and your impatience.
 We are with you more than ever in these wanderings. Because then we recognize in you the flame, the inner fire.

 Then begins an interior dialogue between your soul, which has already recognized us, and us who are your servants, your companions on the way. At your side, ready to support you in the difficult passages, smiling at your stammerings as a child of light.

 In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages"]
following...
, in relation to everything else.

 Your personal relationships are the most important part of this process. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « The others are us, and we are the others.

 The feeling of being a separate, different identity arouses the spirit of competition, jealousy, contempt.

 Always put yourself in the other person's shoes. Give up your opinions for a while in order to understand it. »
[ Dalai Lama ]


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Who is this "I" speaking?

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How to get out of it  

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My enemy, my friend

One hand washes the other...

Forgive ?

The friendship | The exchange

Forgive ?

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  « “Love your neighbour” does not mean forcing oneself to rub shoulders with and appreciate our enemies. Pretending to be kind and loving is worse than holding a grudge. Sincerity is paramount. »
[ Patricia Darré (medium) ]

 « You can only give forgiveness to people who ask for it. It is necessary for the other to recognize that he has done something hurtful. Both parties are then committed and forgiveness becomes possible. True forgiveness frees both people involved. He who receives it is relieved of the weight of his responsibility, and he who gives it gets rid of his resentment completely. Both therefore feel lighter and calmer. »
[ Patricia Darré (medium) ]

 « So learn to forgive as you would like to be forgiven, that is, without reserve. Stop making forgiveness a mercantile act. We don't forgive "on the condition that. »
(D. Meurois and A. Givaudan, 'Par l’esprit du Soleil')magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Anne Givaudan on the theme of:

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 « If guilt is a burden, hatred and resentment are heavy chains that weigh down and overwhelm us. But when there is no request for forgiveness, one can only protect oneself from pain by barricading oneself behind indifference. It's more about protection than cauterization. »
[ Patricia Darré (medium) ]

 Here again, understand

 « Difficulties in forgiving often come from ignorance of what the other has experienced. Knowing his life course (yet how would we know it?) would allow you to understand the reasons for his behavior. »
[ Alain Joseph Bellet, 'Dialogues with the spirit world' ]

 « It is not the behaviors that deserve our indulgence but the people.

 "
I don't want to confuse you with your mistakes anymore."

 The first step in the process of forgiveness is to see the wrongdoer again as a human being; a soul☆ Excerpt from the page: "Why life" :

 The progression of the human soul

Every soul starts from the bottom of the ladder.
From instinct to consciousness, it rises.
From the satisfaction of her desires to the happiness of giving, she rises.
And the path is long and marked with suffering.

 « If different minds conceive such different truths, it is because evolution is not the same in everyone. »
(Gandhi)

 « The Spirit, like man, also has its childhood.
At their origin, the Spirits have only an instinctive existence and are barely aware of themselves and their actions. »
[Message collected by Allan Kardec]

 « If you don't feel ready to forgive someone's actions, at least forgive the person. (Tell yourself that his still animal conscience is not awake, but that his soul is nonetheless a reflection of God). »
[Doreen Virtue, "Communicating with Angels"]

who makes the journey of life, with its ups and downs. »
[ Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ]

 « We are not all on the same level (of spiritual vibration) , we don't all have the same past. Besides, what do we know of what we did before this life, in other spaces, in other times? Perhaps it is better that we forgot about it… »
[ Patricia Darré (medium) ]
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 « It only depends on the strength of each one to want to overcome the offenses, the misunderstandings often born of clumsiness or misconception.

 This forgiveness necessary for any transmutation is then etched forever on the screen of your lives, like a victorious imprint going beyond the weaknesses of the flesh and the soul, claiming the Force of the Spirit over the shadows of incarnation. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages" ]

 « Indulgence is the ability to forgive one's neighbor for an injury. Anyone who advances on a spiritual path will place themselves in acceptance, and this, understand this, without actually feeling hurt. »
[ Alain Joseph Bellet, 'Dialogues with the spirit world' ]

 « (...) My father agreed to put his ego in his pocket to apologize to me. When you truly love someone, a simple "I'm sorry" can go a long way. »
(Allison Dubois (medium))magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Allison Dubois on the theme of:

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 « Only a strong soul excuses weaknesses. »
(Excerpt from a poem hosted on the website of the Cyclamen association )

 « Sometimes you can try to do everything to be liked by someone and only receive indifference in return. This kind of relationship hurts, but you have to admit that the other can not give you more (Cf. the young souls ) and consider that this problem belongs to him. If you have reached a certain level of evolution, you will know how to understand it, and show indulgence in acceptance. »
[ Alain Joseph Bellet, 'Dialogues with the spirit world' ]

 « We don't have to forgive, just be more understanding. »
(Marlo Morgann, 'Message from Eternity')magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Marlo Morgann on the subject of:

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 « (...) Here, when we evolve, we understand the importance of loving and accepting the other with his faults, his limits.
 (...) You cannot force the other to love you because he has his own limits, but you can do your part without expecting anything in return.
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[ Message received by Alain Joseph Bellet (medium) ]

Resentment poisons☆ Excerpt from the page: "Hate" :

 It's us first that hate gnaws

These feelings cannot be commanded, but it is a fact:
 love intoxicates the one who loves, hatred rots the one who ruminates.

 « Negative emotions are a torture that you inflict on yourself. They destroy you.

 Feeling hatred towards someone is like sticking a sword in your stomach in order to hit someone behind you. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 ☞  The effect of our thoughts on ourselves
 « Thoughts of hate generally create a fatal bond with the hated being, a bond which can last, for the suffering of both, over several existences. »
(Karl Otto Schmidt, 'We Live More Than Once') LoupeAuteurContributions by Karl Schmidt on the theme of:

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following...
, and can even accompany us in death. To understand for a moment the one who hurt us, we only need to realize that in his place (with his life experience), we would do the same.

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 ☞ See "Human Nature" above.

 ☞ "The forgiveness" to a deceased


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« Any friendship which does not have virtue as its basis
ceases with the cause which gave birth to it. »

 ("Presences of Judaism")

The friendship

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  « To love 'the whole of humanity' is very easy; it is each man in particular that it is important to love. »
[ Arnaud Desjardins, 'Yoga and spirituality' ]

 « Friendship is first of all the truce, the great circulation of the mind above vulgar details.

 (...) There is no gateway from you to the other except by the path of God. And those alone are my true companions who prostrate themselves with me in prayer. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « Never ask more of your friends than they are capable of.
 This is a rule to know that you should never depart from. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « If you open channels of affection, you will receive love in return, spiritual love. »
[ "To those who seek" ]

 « First of all, the friend is the one who does not judge. And I can be silent with him, that is to say fear nothing for my interior gardens and my mountains and my ravines and my deserts, he won't walk here around with his shoes. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « Hospitality and courtesy and friendship are encounters of man in man. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « Through long discipline and prayer, for over forty years I ceased to feel enmity for anyone. »
(Gandhi)

 « If you want to found friendships, where there is nothing more than sharing of provisions and divisions of the heart which result from it, find the respect of man, and know that the tribe is only breathable where no one criticizes the other. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « My friend is point of view. I need to hear where he speaks from because in this he is a particular empire and an inexhaustible supply. He can be silent and fill me up again. I then consider according to him and I see the world differently. Likewise, I demand of my friend that he first know where I am talking about. Only then will he hear me. Because words always contradict each other. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « The acquisition of love is comparable to the work of a gardener. The man plants and harvests.

 A friendship is acquired, cultivated like a garden, like a tree which must bear beautiful fruit. A friend is a precious stone that you must constantly be afraid of losing. »
 [ "Annaëlle Chimoni's book" ]

 « Your friends necessarily get tired of you. They go to other houses to complain about you. When they have relaxed they come back having forgiven you and love you again.

 But if you learn from a third party, who comes at the wrong time to tell you what was not intended for you, which was a satiety of you, and is therefore outside of you, you then reject those that are come back to you.

 Now, if you hadn't loved them the first time, you would be happy with this conversion in your favour, you would even have asked for it and you would celebrate that. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]


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If two souls who seek God meet,
they find Him.
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The exchange, to listen

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  « I sometimes worry about Westerners' habit of thinking in terms of black/white opposition, for/against, forgetting the interdependence and relativity of facts, too often neglecting the inevitable zone that exists between two points of view. »
[ Dalai Lama ]

 « During a dialogue, many men feel immediately prompted to express their approval or an objection, thus projecting onto the sounds heard the reaction of personal feelings; whereas everything should be silent in itself, that both assent and response should be silenced.

 We must learn to listen to others, pay all our attention to receiving information about what they say.
 Whether it is agreeable or not, pleasant or unsympathetic, only one thing must occupy our soul: what is happening in the being which emits the sound. We thus acquire, by disregarding our own person, the ability to vibrate in unison with another being.

 Through the words, we then hear the inner voice of another soul. Sound becomes the best agent for perceiving soul and spirit. »
[ Rudolf Steiner ]

 « To listen, you need an inner calm. This passive yet alert state is apt to hear that which is beyond the verbal conclusion. Words are a source of confusion; to commune beyond the sound of words, one must listen with relaxed attention.
 It is only when you listen in the absence of thought that you are in direct contact. »
('Jiddu Krishnamurti: "The Book of Meditation and Life"')

 « I learned and I am still learning how to keep a clear and transparent mind like spring water, how to watch, listen, learn to make yourself available to others. »
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I happened to be right. We were surrounded, and I found there an opportunity to showcase myself. My arguments, one after another, entangled my rival until I had the last word.

Fine victory, yes: I only succeeded in making an enemy of him.

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