This chapter invites us to take full responsibility for our children...while keeping in mind that they do not belong to us.

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« Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's call to Life.
They come through you but not from you.
And although they are with you, they are not yours.
Give them your love, but not your thoughts.
Because they have their own thoughts.
Do not seek to make them in your image.
Because life does not go backwards. » (Khalil Gibran, "The Prophet")

Parents: roles, responsibilities

Parent's mission
The limits of their role
The child's choices

Parent's mission

« Woe to pastors who graze themselves! Isn't it the sheep that pastors must graze? The one who was lost, you did not look for her. It is with violence that you rule them, and with harshness. So they dispersed; for lack of a pastor, they have become the prey of all the beasts of the field. » (Ezekiel, XXXIV)
- Can we consider fatherhood as a mission?

« Obviously paternity is a very great duty and one which commits more than a man thinks. God put the child under the guardianship of his parents so that they direct him in the way of good. » [Message collected by Allan Kardec]
« Seen from here, the parent-child relationship is incomprehensible. Love is not letting everything do! Only parents provide the real benchmarks, teach good and bad, learn to live. To give in to him is to lead him to failure. So many complications come from parental renunciation ! » ( Christine André, 'Listen, you need to know' )

Contributions by Christine André on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE ou DEATH
« Other forms of poverty have spread, more distressing. They flourish in the heart of housing projects where self-absorbed parents neglect their children, no longer raise them. This selfishness pushes adolescents toward boredom instead of inner pursuit, toward drugs instead of work, toward sexual play instead of love.
Mother Teresa takes into her eyes, into her heart, these outcasts of the world, these lost people who have been led to believe that material possessions were a goal, an ideal. » [ Olympia Alberti - "Mother Teresa, the kingdom of his night" ]
« The soul that parents attract is a child of God. They are responsible for his education and development. It is an opportunity for them to manifest divine love and serve the Creator. They must maintain a fair interior disposition and have an exemplary conduct. » [a reading by Edgar Cayce]
« Pythagoras spoke of love for parents, equating the idea of the father with that of God. " There is nothing more venerable," he said, " than being a father." »

He compared the mother to the generous and beneficent nature. Parents are given to us, not by chance, but by a higher order. » (Édouard Schuré, 'Death and beyond')

Contributions by Édouard Schuré on the theme of:

The WAY , The love , LIFE or DEATH
« If two souls unite with the idea not of gratifying their earthly desires, their carnal impulses, but of being the channel of the souls who will enter, then those who will accelerate the evolution of Humanity can be born. » [a reading by Edgar Cayce]
« The joys of my children are mine, their sorrows torment me. I am far from having learned detachment. However, thanks to the messages, I understood that their souls had chosen us, their father and me, to follow the path with them in this new incarnation.
I understood that I had been “lent” my children, to accompany them on this path of life. I also understood, with great difficulty, that they had come to accomplish their mission, their path, with my help and that of their father.

Excerpt from the page: "Reincarnation" :

« A baby is not born as a blank page. I see trends, and people (who come to consult me) confirm it to me. What they do with them will depend as much on these innate tendencies as on the external circumstances that will bring them to light in different ways.
This spirit, charged with latent tendencies and its baggage of potential, is embodied in a body when the circumstances are met to achieve what has not been achieved, in an environment favorable to the realization of its life project. » (Irene Andrieu, astrologer)
following... .
I also had to admit to myself that I couldn't always protect them, not removing all the stones from their path because, at that time, they would have come for nothing and would have to start over, reincarnate for the same mission.

My infinite love can surround them with light, but must not make the journey for them. What is to be lived is to be lived, the soul has chosen it before descending. The soul always has free will, and alone, in its intimacy, it decides its steps, its route and always the inflection of its destiny.
So this child does not belong to us. He is the soul who entrusted himself to us to help him grow, to accomplish the trajectory that he programmed for himself before this earthly apnea, with God and his guides.

The love of a father or a mother is often so strong, so possessive, that it suffocates the child instead of remaining in the background, as an affectionate, attentive but discreet witness. God it's hard to love them madly while letting them live! » (A. Ray-Wendling, "A Sun Too Late")

Contributions by Anne Ray-Wendling on the subject of:

The WAY , The love , LIFE or DEATH

The limits of their role

« Mom, seventeen years ago, you gave birth to a child that you believed to be yours, and who in reality belonged to God. » [Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]
A soul about to incarnate conveys this message:

« Parents don't make, they open a door and give.
If they have not understood this, they appropriate what does not belong to them and then hinder the expansion of Life. » (D. Meurois and A. Givaudan, 'Les neuf marches') magnifying glassAuthor

Contributions by Anne Givaudan on the theme of:

The WAY , The love , LIFE , HEALTH or DEATH
« When you are elevated to the level of divine consciousness, you will no longer worry about the physical comfort of your family members. You will understand that you are not responsible for any human soul. Every soul chooses its own destiny. Stop making your loved ones dependent on you. Seek to make your love a magnet that first attracts, then rotates and repels, so that those who are attracted to you do not come to believe that they must stick to you in order to survive.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

May your love propel your loved ones into the world to fully experience Who They Are

Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Every being is connected to their inner Self,
which is connected to God.

Our inner being

The Texts agree on one essential point: deep within us, our eternal being slumbers; the one who came to incarnate on Earth, the time of a lifetime; who sometimes gives us advice. This marvelous part of ourselves binds us to other men and to God, in the same way that in the soil all the roots of all plants join in mother earth.

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« In you there are two characters, one terrestrial, stuck to matter, mired in its heaviness, and the other celestial, letting itself be carried by the light. The moment you conceive your two poles, you become greedy for unity and begin your quest for purity. But that's also where the trouble begins! In the innocence of unconsciousness you found a certain tranquility, operating in the same patterns for generations, fit to taste the pleasures of the flesh.
However, as soon as your consciousness opens to greater lucidity, your thirst for clarity comes up against the shadows.
In the grip of an existential despair, your mind then plays monumental tricks on you. You become the prey of grief, terrible doubts, loneliness and your impatience.
We are with you more than ever in these wanderings. Because then we recognize in you the flame, the inner fire.

Then begins an interior dialogue between your soul, which has already recognized us, and us who are your servants, your companions on the way. At your side, ready to support you in the difficult passages, smiling at your stammerings as a child of light.

In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. » [ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages" ] following... . Then you will have truly loved it. It is a big challenge on the part of the head of the family. The ascetic does not have this kind of annoyance. They bring him his bread and his water and he can devote his hours to meditation. How easy it is to see the divine in these circumstances! Ah, but give him a spouse and children!

See the divine in a baby who needs changing at 3 a.m. See the divine in the bills to be paid. » [Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

The child's choices

« To love unconditionally is also to accept that 'the other', the loved one, follows an itinerary that we would never have envisaged either for him or for us. » (A. Givaudan, 'La rupture de contrat')

Contributions by Anne Givaudan on the theme of:

The WAY , The love , LIFE , HEALTH or DEATH
« You were the nest, but you are not master of their life. You have to learn detachment and stop wanting to rule. You see, no one can afford to stand in their way. What is good for you is not necessarily good for them! » (A. Ray-Wendling, "A Sun Too Late")

Contributions by Anne Ray-Wendling on the subject of:

The WAY , The love , LIFE or DEATH
« Two years later, Jacques' identity was revealed. He was his father's guide. He had been his ancestor. Parents often believe that they have adopted a child, but in reality it is the child who adopted them!

Even through adoption, a child comes where he should come. » [ Maguy Lebrun ]
« Your child makes his way with much more difficulty than some, but tell yourself one thing: he is the one who chose him. You choose your path and your family before you come. Family groups reincarnate together. The soul goes back to its source along this path it has prepared before descending. » (A. Ray-Wendling, "A Sun Too Late")

Contributions by Anne Ray-Wendling on the subject of:

The WAY , The love , LIFE or DEATH
« (...) I realized that each of my children had their own path to follow on Earth. I had always considered them "mine", but I had been mistaken. They were, like me, independent souls, placed only under my protection.
They are, like us, beings from the heavens, who have come to have an earthly experience. We would be unable to annihilate their grief, just as it is impossible for us to decide their joys. » [Betty J. Eadie, "In the Arms of Light"]

Confrontations

Misunderstandings
Misbehaviors
A role against the tide
The little-known role

Misunderstandings

« Dad, my dear dad, to whom I very often brought more trouble than happiness, because I answered and often I slammed the door so as not to hear your speeches which would have been good advice for me. Dad, sorry, my dad for my ungrateful way of my adolescence, and now be happy to know that I am happy. I love you, my father, because I have grown in wisdom. » (Message from Hervé Dougé transmitted by a medium)

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With a teenager or a young adult, the sources of misunderstanding, even of conflict, are natural (and numerous). One wants to enjoy the present, the others worry about the future. However a child owes parents respect in all circumstances.
« The nature of a child's relationship to his parents should be respect. If the child does not receive love from his parents, it is not up to him to judge them because only God knows the links uniting them to past lives. The roles may indeed have been reversed in an earlier past. » [ Alain Joseph Bellet (medium) ]
Parents, when they have expressed their opinion, must know how to swallow their annoyance, accept that their child "lives his life". By presenting their point of view, they have done their duty; now they must stand back, not vexed with resentment, but ready to help.

Misbehaviors

« When children make mistakes, one thing they absolutely must know is that mom and dad still love them! They don't need hitting and yelling, they need our love. If we, the parents, don't give love and trust, they have a hard time living and loving. I know where it can lead not to be loved (Wilhelm Buntz is an ex-convict, a repeat offender).
When a child does something stupid, it always hides something that needs to be discovered to help him. We do this together in order to find a solution, instead of hitting him like my father did to me, and like his father did to him. » ( Wilhelm Buntz, "The Bible Smoker" )

A role against the tide

« I have to put up with seeing my one and only child, the person I cherish the most in the world, living in an unheated room, without a blanket, with practically nothing to eat, while the temperature outside has remained for weeks at 20° below zero (Her son suffered a terrible disappointment and, from disappointment to disappointment, no longer believes in life, suppresses his faith in God). I could easily find him a warm room, feed him, get him everything he needs. But I don't have the right. I know it's better for him to save his soul than his body. For love of him I must be cruel! I must lead him back to God.

In the dark I pray: "Be with him, O God! Make him find You and find himself. Allow him to find the path that leads to You. Wake him up, wake up in him, my strength is no longer sufficient. He is lost and You know the only way that can lead him back to You: he must feel abandoned by everyone and be convinced that I too have abandoned him. He must be disappointed by everyone, he must lose all hope. You know, my God, that I have no alternative to save him." » [ Elisabeth Haich, "Initiation" ]
« As a parent I encouraged my child to be independent, knowing that she couldn't develop without it. There were, and still are, many times when, seeing her make choices that weren't mine, I hold my breath and pray with all my might. But I knew that at a certain age I should let her be, with the assurance that having fulfilled my role as a mother to the best of my ability, that would be enough.
When I say this, I fully understand that if you truly love someone, you must allow them to be truly themselves. And if, after giving as much as we can, trying to be a positive influence, that person continues to use drugs or drink, we must respect their choice and allow them their agency. » [Rosemary Altea, "Free as the Spirit"]

The little-known role of parents

- Why does the soul choose a certain kind of parents?
“You've always been taught that parents are there to teach you love and educate you.
What if their role was completely different?
Between two journeys, the soul has seen what it has been, has not accepted it and above all has not forgiven itself for a certain behavior (by example, a domination over the other). Yet forgiveness is essential in the journey of a soul. He purifies it by making it open and understanding towards others.
This is the starting point of the parents' choice for its future incarnation.

- How does she choose them?
“Having not been able to forgive itself for its attitude during its last life, the soul will ask to relive this difficulty. To be confronted with it very early, she will want to find this behavior in the character of one of her two parents. It will be a behavior and not an act that she will have in front of her.

- A flaw, in a way.
“Yes, and this fault in one of the parents will be omnipresent during the infancy of the soul. So much so that she will not support it and therefore will not want to integrate it... without (yet) realizing that this parent, was himself before. Unbeknownst to it, the soul begins to settle its past life through this behavior that displeases it and makes it suffer. And as long as it hasn't sorted it out, it will continue to encounter people who remind it of this same flaw throughout its adult life.

- It's still hard!
“No, since it is the soul itself which has asked its Guide to place on its adult road, as many times as necessary, people having down with this same problem. Until the soul understands that it must forgive and forgive itself (of this tendency which she rejects with every fiber of her being.).

This is the major role of parents: a mirror of what you have been and must no longer be. Thank them for their sometimes difficult attitude, because thanks to them, it is your soul that grows. » ( Christine André, 'The path of a soul' )

Contributions by Christine André on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE ou DEATH

☞ The homosexuality

« The development of the soul
should take precedence over all things. »

[a reading by Edgar Cayce]

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The education

What to encourage
The need for benchmarks
The difficulties
The love
The example

Spoiled childhood.
Ready-made toys, ready-made knowledge,
Ready-made food, ready-made experience,
This is what the child receives, and he is sick of it.
His thirst for knowledge, his desire to create,
Everything that makes him human, withers away.
His desire to experiment, too much advice kills him.
All of this is cowardice and lack of faith.
When the child becomes an adult,
Everything is dead in him.

Remember this:
Never complete, never advise,
Do not chew food in advance! [ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]
« Love without wisdom brings no good.
Acceding to a child's desires will make him capricious and weak in a world where he is called upon to fight. » [ Sylvie Lorain-Berger, "The messengers from beyond" ]
« Your task is to make your children independent ; to teach them as completely as possible how to manage without you. As long as they need you to survive, you won't be doing them a favor. » [Inspired message to Neale Walsch]
« I submit without discussion to his resolution. I know he (the medium's guide) loves me, but he will never agree to do my bidding. His love is not earthly. He is devoid of that emotional weakness that so often hampers the wisdom of humans responsible for the beings entrusted to their care on Earth. » [ Sylvie Lorain-Berger, "The messengers from beyond" ]
« Be firm; weakness is not goodness and can only bring disorder where it reigns, but be just to those entrusted to you. » [Paqui, "Heavenly Talks"]

« The thought-forms issued from the mental radiation of the parents are easily substituted for those of the infant whose aura

« Every object, everything has its halo, but your overly crude eyes do not see it. This halo, you all possess it; hence the symbol of the halo. These discs are luminous and iridescent in spirits of great nobility. »

(Celestial Message by Roland de Jouvenel)

« The aura of a living person reveals a number of things about him: state of mind, vitality, moral and physical health – the two are linked. Besides, good healers are able to make diagnoses at a glance.

The feelings that affect us dramatically alter our aura. To those who know how to perceive it, our thoughts will immediately appear because it is true that we "project" them - the word could not be more appropriate. We sometimes look like those eruptions of the solar corona as shown on television. When an individual "radiates goodness", his aura resembles a sun. But the anguish also radiates. Evil thoughts take the form of evil shadows.

Animals probably perceive our aura. »

(Michèle Decker, "Life on the Other Side") has few defenses. Therefore, they act as a leaven, a pacifier or as a lead cover and a destructuring agent. It unfortunately very often happens that parents stifle the mental radiance of their child from the very beginning because they do not see in him an individuality to be channeled and respected but a material to be molded which belongs entirely to them. » (D. Meurois and A. Givaudan, 'Les neuf marches') magnifying glassAuthor

Contributions by Anne Givaudan on the theme of:

The WAY , The love , LIFE , HEALTH or DEATH
« If a child grew up alone, would he become kind and big-hearted, or bloodthirsty, concerned only with survival? Judaism refers to the inclinations that tear a man apart as two conflicting minds. The evil spirit may initially be as light as a spider's web, but if allowed to grow, it becomes as thick as an arm. » (Mitch Albom, "The Old Man Who Taught Me About Life")

« From an early age, the child must be made to understand that he should not affirm such and such a thing when this affirmation is intended to pass judgment on the people around him or instructing him. Too many parents complacently listen to the child when he criticizes wrongly and through.
Do not bully this little orator, but explain to him that he must not judge, that he does not know, that appearances are often false, exaggerated, finally, open his heart to indulgence; we must open this little heart ready to blame, to scratch, to criticize. The task is often difficult but the result rarely negative; the little brain registers, the heart opens and gives birth to this pretty fragrant flower, to this quality which is so lacking in men, generosity, and that we must sow in the heart of the child. » [Paqui, "Heavenly Talks"]

« The mission of parents' spirit is to develop that of their children. If he fails, he is guilty. » [Message collected by Allan Kardec]
« Pythagoras said that exercising youth in dialectics and reasoning, before having given them a sense of truth, made hollow heads and pretentious sophists . He dreamed of developing intuition above all. »

Dialectic : means implemented in the discussion in order to demonstrate, refute. Play with contradictory propositions.
Sophists : who argues, reasons falsely despite apparent truth
(usually involves bad faith) (Édouard Schuré, 'Death and beyond')

Contributions by Édouard Schuré on the theme of:

The WAY , The love , LIFE or DEATH
« True education helps man to develop his inner qualities, to bring out his fundamental nature. » [ Dalai Lama ]
« In reality, it is not a question of receiving a completed formation from school, but of preparing to receive it from life. » [ Rudolf Steiner ]
« I am not interested in anyone who has known, carried in a litter, a thousand mountain peaks and thus observed a thousand landscapes, because first of all he will not really know a single one, and secondly because a thousand landscapes constitute only one speck of dust in the immensity of the world. Only the one who will have exercised his muscles in the ascent of a mountain will interest me, because he will be available to understand all the landscapes to come. » [ Saint-Exupéry ]
« We need to change our life goals. The "experiencers" tell us that when they were in the light of love, they were not asked how big their house was or how many people they led in their life, but rather how they had loved and helped others. Unfortunately, we don't teach that to our children.

(...) Our so-called "modern" societies produce generations of frustrated people, gesticulating and grimacing under the repeated blows of economic crises. » [ Dr. JJ Charbonier ]
« Society only sees education as a way to be more competitive, a path to power and fame. True education is learning which helps man to develop his inner qualities and to develop his fundamental nature as a human being. » [ Dalai Lama ]
« A fair education leads the child to take others into account, and to find it natural that they do not exist only according to him. » [ Arnaud Desjardins, 'The paths of wisdom' ]

The need for benchmarks

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« Young people are drugged, less by the dealers than by your permissiveness, your abandonment of all moral responsibility towards them.
Young people expect a spiritual legacy from you. They need fathers, mothers and masters, not false friends! » [ Arnaud Gourvennec, celestial messages ]
« Whether we like it or not, a spirit is like land: if left untended, weeds grow very quickly.
[...] Sects constitute a terrible danger for young people brought up without faith or law. If at the moment when they feel a spiritual call, their path crosses that of a sect, they are ripe to fall; [and] the parents who offered no example can do nothing for them.
The second trap is drugs. I spoke at length with drugged teenagers: they had, at their first experience, no other desire than a spiritual experience (!). » [ Maguy Lebrun ]
If the man, who is the pillar of the house, or the woman, who is the soul, disperses elsewhere, the house collapses, and the children lose their bearings. Accountability will be required.

☞ The home's foundations

The difficulties

- Whence comes the change which takes place in the character at the end of adolescence?

« It is the Spirit which takes back its nature and shows itself what it was. » [Message collected by Allan Kardec]
« (...) Of course, the parents also have the possibility of choosing their children, however, in the event of a large family or to inflict a ordeal, Heaven can impose certain souls in the process of evolution. Parents courageously accept these souls who are bound to make them suffer, knowing that pain and self-denial provide rapid spiritual advancement. It's the famous "little black duck" who sneaked among the others. Parents wonder, ask themselves where this child who looks like no one can come from. Although raised like the others, he is different! It's true. Most of the time, it comes from another plan than theirs. » [ Sylvie Lorain-Berger, "The messengers from beyond" ]

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It happened to me to seek divine help when despite all my efforts I could not solve a problem with a teenager:

« My God, we are the parents to whom You entrusted this child. We raise it as best we can, but today we are faced with a problem that we do not know how to solve. Please help us, inspire us the right attitude, and inspire him too. »

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Blows corrupt the child.
The improvement can only be apparent.
It is the form and not the essential that changes.
Trained child - mutilated child. [ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]
« We must see to the fulfillment of destiny, while leaving the child a large autonomy. It is important to let them make mistakes. » (Jean Prieur, "The country after")

As long as our children are small, they stay close to us. They listen to us, imitate us. But in adolescence they move away. We no longer understand them, it's as if a stranger had taken the place of our darling child.
However, by making the effort to understand them we take an important step towards understanding others, all others; those strangers who surround us (neighbors, colleagues...) and whom we never try to understand.
« Our fellow human is first of all, of course, the closest ones. » [ Maguy Lebrun ]

☞ The human Relations

« Young people today love luxury; they are badly brought up, despise authority, have no respect for their elders, and gossip instead of working. They contradict their parents, show off in society and tyrannize their masters. » (Socrates (470-399 BC))

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« This youth is rotten from the bottom of the heart. Young people are mischievous and lazy. They will never be like the youth of old. Those of today will not be able to maintain our culture. » (Inscription discovered on clay pottery in the ruins of Babylon (3000 BC))

So, nothing to despair of the current generation...

The love

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« When the love of the parents goes beyond their own person, with the intuition that the spiritual life of the child is more important than his material life, there we come to Love outside the earthly field. » [ Arnaud Gourvennec, celestial messages ]
« For the truly initiated man and woman, the creation of the child has an infinitely more beautiful meaning, a greater scope than for us. The father and the mother knowing that the soul of the child pre-exists its earthly birth, conception becomes a sacred act, the call of a soul to incarnation. Between the embodied soul and the mother there is almost always a deep degree of similarity. As evil and wicked women attract demonic spirits, tender mothers attract divine spirits.

For this invisible soul that is awaited, birth, imprisonment in the flesh will be a painful thing. Holy and divine is the task of the mother who must create a new home for him, soften his prison and facilitate his ordeal. » (Édouard Schuré, 'Death and beyond')

Contributions by Édouard Schuré on the theme of:

The WAY , The love , LIFE or DEATH
« A child who feels that his mother has turned against him lives the situation of a man against whom, at the same time, the sky, the sun, the earth, the trees, the animals, all men, everything that exists would suddenly unite to destroy it.

Giving the child his full of love is one of the foundations of ancient societies. This in no way excludes a severity also necessary to prepare real adults.

Hindu society produces happy adults because it produces mothers. As soon as spouses have a child, they are no longer primarily husband and wife, but father and mother. » [ Arnaud Desjardins, 'The paths of wisdom' ]

The example

« Each parent must educate his child, talk to him about sensitivity, tolerance, communication... But the child will naturally observe his parents, his masters. And it is their example that he will remember. » [ R. Altea, "A long ladder to the sky" ]
« All the tendencies that we see in man, young or old, already existed in childhood, but had not then had the strength or the opportunity to manifest themselves. While bad tendencies often worsen with age, righteous reprimands and example can still influence the young child. » (Orehot Tzadikim, "The Path of the Righteous")

Our children

« Teenagers often need to serve. They seek an ideal, be it religious, political or otherwise. How sad that they are so often disappointed, often through a lack of tolerance on the part of those around them.

Parents who have offered no example can do nothing for these children who become delinquents or drug addicts or immerse themselves in a sect. Whether we like it or not, a mind is like land; if left untended, weeds grow very quickly. » [ Maguy Lebrun ]

Bad Seed (Adamo)

I walk in the city and I feel like a stranger there.
We don't have a quiet step
when we have our hearts in our shoes.
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She doesn't smile at the city and especially not at strangers.
I walk and I exile myself in the city, uprooted.

Far too free to be able to serve her.
But far too chained, to run away

And I'm looking, but what am I looking for?
Someone who would help me well,
who would stretch out a hand, a pole.
And I drag, bad seed, tons of disappointed hope.
From porters who received a lot of hate.

I walk in the city when the neon lights come on.
I melt into the night between hammer and anvil.
And now my fear disguises itself as arrogance.
I feel that on edge my pain becomes violence.

Way too proud to look down.
I defy gazes, as if by game.

And I seek, yes I seek them
Those who in the depths of their eyes have flashes of fire.
Yes I look for them, and I drag, bad seed,
my desire to exist
Even if it means wanting to break everything, bad seed.
Bad Seed.

I walk in the city and the city thinks it is in danger.
In indelible ink on my skin it reads: Stranger!

And I seek, but what am I seeking?
Someone who would help me well,
who would stretch out a hand, a pole.
And I drag, bad seed, my desire to exist.
Even if it means wanting to break everything, bad seed.

And I seek, but what am I seeking?

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In the small nest, the baby bird now takes up as much space as an adult. It's cramped there, but it's too early to jump. So, the teenager turns his frustration towards his parents... or will burn his wings at the dangers outside.

The teenager

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A medium is faced with three young people who have carried out a collective suicide. They asked to testify.

« At this age, the life we lead often seems derisory compared to our ideals. During this period, we feel helpless and mistreated by this life that we sincerely believe we did not want.

(...) For a moment, he thinks of his parents whom he absolutely does not want to be like: an idealistic mother who does not act and a father who works too much and does not think... without noticing that he has taken in one, idealism and in the other the capacity to act. » (A. Givaudan, 'La rupture de contrat')

Contributions by Anne Givaudan on the theme of:

The WAY , The love , LIFE , HEALTH or DEATH

When I was a teenager

When I was a teenager, I was uncompromising for pride, weaknesses and generally for the shortcomings that I saw/discovered in my parents. So when they issued a peremptory opinion or directive, I bristled. They didn't understand me, so how could they judge, decide for me?

I don't want to be an adult

An adult does not trust his first impressions, nor his peers, except those whom he calls his friends.
An adult knows how to hide his feelings perfectly; he even manages to display completely different ones.
More concerned about his image than the well-being of those close to him, he is said to be serious because he laughs in moderation, has the wisdom to agree with the opinion of the greatest number and is careful not to intervene in an exchange that shocks him or from expressing a dissenting opinion.

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Who has the right (PATRICK BRUEL)

I was told "don't ask too many questions
You know kid, it's life that answers you
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What's the point of wanting to know everything?
Look up and see what you can see
They told me "you have to listen to your father"
Mine didn't say anything
When he left, mom told me
"You're too young to understand"
And I grew up in a space to fill
Who has the right, who has the right
Who has the right to do that
To a child
Who really believes
What the big guys say?
We spend our lives saying thank you
Thank you to whom, to what?
To make the rain and the nice weather
For children who are lied to
I was told that men are all the same
There are several gods, but there is only one sun
Yes but,
does the sun shine or burn?
You too, I'm sure you've been told
Great stories
You talk, all bullshit
So now, we find ourselves on the road
With our fears, our anxieties, our doubts
Who has the right, who has the right
Who has the right to do that
To children who really believe
What the grown-ups say?
We spend our lives saying thank you
Thank you to whom, to what?
To make the rain and the nice weather
For children to whom we lie
To whom we lie

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Teens, be indulgent

« No one is worse off when it comes to raising children than young parents. It's a miracle that so many of them take care of it so well.
Most parents have to take on this task with very little life experience. Looking for answers and indications themselves, they still try to overcome the false definition given to them by their parents.
They can't even take care of their lives properly. So they are wrong about everything: their lives and that of their children.
The harm done to them will be overcome, but probably not before they've passed it on to their own children. » [ Message inspiré à Neale Walsch ]
- (...) My authority is not enough and he is taking advantage of it. You see, I'm not a perfect mother...

« There is no such thing as a perfect mother. Many parents grow up at the same time as their children. It's hard to raise children. You have to be an example, but adults are mostly still evolving

The fulfillment of our being

« The purpose of our life during our passage on Earth, then after our death, in the various worlds of the beyond, is an increasingly complete realization of our being. » [ Patricia Darré (medium) ]
« Every soul must become aware of itself little by little.

In evolution, the mineral will become vegetable, the vegetable will become animal and the animal will become human. It is the long chain of life. » (Hélène Bouvier, medium, "Mission of souls in the afterlife")
« The important thing for you is to evolve in order to modify your vibrational state.
The Earth is a domain that allows the soul to modify its vibrations through more or less difficult life experiences. » (R. Terral-Meyer, 'Lettres de l’invisible')
continued... ; they often repeat the same mistakes as their parents. » [ Sylvie Lorain-Berger, "The messengers from beyond" ]
« In your “non-barbaric societies”, children (as well as spouses for that matter) are considered as property, as personal property.
Most humans, even at 30 or 40, are not equipped to raise children. They haven't lived long enough as an adult to impart deep wisdom to them.

How can you teach children a truth you haven't found yet?
Of course, you can't. So you tell them the only truth you know: that of others. From your father, your mother, your culture, your religion. Everything but yours, you are still looking for it. » [Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

The fear of the future

« Anxiety about the future, failures, difficult dialogues incite young people to withdraw into themselves or to take refuge in partying, drugs, alcohol, tobacco, video games and other addictions .
This dependence increases the problems; the pain of living gradually sinks into depression, and the suffering caused causes increasingly lasting anxiety attacks. » [ Alain Joseph Bellet, 'Dialogues with the spirit world' ]
« We must not encroach on the future by asking before the time what can only come with time. » (Arthur Schopenhauer - 1788-1860)

Contributions by Arthur Schopenhauer on the theme of:

LIFE ou DEATH

☞ Attach to the present moment

The tragedy of this generation

Your greatest danger
What is a decentered person?
What could we do urgently?
What if we ask for your help?
What happens to young people

« Your greatest danger : the dumbing down of your brain. Television, radios, videos hammer it during the few hours of lucidity you have!

At the end of the last few decades, your thinking faculties have melted away. It will intensify! The most insightful among us paint a chilling picture of humanity... » [ Arnaud Gourvennec, celestial messages ]
« The new generations have to deal constantly with bad news, constantly deal with violence. They are intensively and continuously immersed in fear and tension. It is the first time in the course of humanity that a phenomenon of such magnitude has occurred.

The time spent in front of television continues to grow, its power is real, its impact significant. They change our behaviors, our tastes and probably our thinking.

The power of the media is all the more important as it also addresses the unconscious. » [ Dalai Lama ]
« The way of life imposed by modern civilization is the opposite of favorable conditions for psychic blossoming. » [Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]
« On television, we favor sex and violence on a daily basis. Producers, who desire only financial gain, wield power whether they like it or not. And this power gives them a responsibility comparable to religious and political responsibility. » [ Dalai Lama ]

Mediumistic contact with Edgar Cayce ,
50 years after his death.

("In the light of light" - CHANNELING - 1994)

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« I have something to reveal to you, the cycle of which is already in motion: many, many young people will be sick; old and new diseases. These diseases will be caused by the fear of living. This strange phenomenon will count its victims among young people aged 0 to 20 years.

"Young Souls"

Excerpt from the page: "Why life" :

The progression of the human soul

Every soul starts from the bottom of the ladder.
From instinct to consciousness, it rises.
From the satisfaction of her desires to the happiness of giving, she rises.
And the path is long and marked with suffering.

« If different minds conceive such different truths, it is because evolution is not the same in everyone. » (Gandhi)

« The Spirit, like man, also has its childhood.
At their origin, the Spirits have only an instinctive existence and are barely aware of themselves and their acts. » [Message collected by Allan Kardec]
« If you don't feel ready to forgive someone's actions, at least forgive the person. (Tell yourself that his still animal conscience is not awake, but that his soul is nonetheless a reflection of God). » [Doreen Virtue, "Communicating with Angels"]
overflowing with energy and at the same time, they are so fragile, being open to any wind. Their chakras are terribly open, opened by hard music (heavy metal). All these young people do not know the methods of protection. Winds of negativity are blowing in at the very root of their being.
Everything becomes off center because there is too much stress. All the senses are harshly solicited by external desires or objects. These young people come to no longer live in their own skin. And I must repeat to you very clearly that no longer living in your skin brings disease, of one kind or another. »

- What is a decentered person?

« A decentered person is no longer himself. Many exterior objects continually appeal to you, as long as you come out of yourself and become the coveted objects. You read the newspapers and you live in the shoes of the characters described in the disasters. You live the misfortunes of these people.
This phenomenon of empathy intensifies even more during long stations in front of the television. The moving image and sound accentuate its effect and literally tear you away from your center.
This solicitation is constant. And the majority of people have to live in this extremely stressed environment.

How to make people understand that a pronounced and constant off-centering kills in a certain way, since it leads to life fatigue and suicide? »

« (...) Our sadness comes from the fact that we cannot intervene from the world of light without there being a request, because we must respect the free will of humans. Unfortunately these young people are already so bewitched that they can hardly think for themselves of worlds of light and invoke their help. The adult world will therefore have to ask for help for them, and there is urgency; urgency to prepare a burst of energy-light to sweep away this wind of negativity.

To no longer live in your skin is to be afraid to live because you are no longer in your element. To really understand this, create the image of the fish struggling on a rock out of the water. Living outside of one's skin is a real suffering in which the fear of living sets in.
We must therefore replace the fear of living with the joy of living. To overcome fear, you have to understand fear . The young of humans need the family nest much longer than the young of animals, because they are of a fragility without comparison in nature. They need the warm and safe nest until at least the age of seven. Now many of these little ones, at the moment I speak to you, are already afraid of living.

I must explain to you what brings about this fear of living. First, the soul of the parents is itself panicked, decentered and the child feels this unhealthy and continuous feverishness. Parents' souls are nourished, among other things, by a constantly switched on television set which conveys all the violence of the planet in selected images, accompanied by appropriate music. In such an environment the child develops the fear of living, hence the disturbing stress that already accumulates at this age.
You live in an era where even the context of the normal child's family nest

[who does not know the cataclysms, or the war, or the torture or the work in the mines like in South America] is stressful. »

- What could we do urgently to correct the situation?

« It settles in us, in this world of light, not sadness, because sadness is incompatible with the energy-light, but a compassion; however, the manifestation of this compassion requires requests.
Those who make these requests will not receive wads of money from the air... They will first receive light in order to help them make very deep awareness. These will show the means to be taken. »

- If we ask for your help immediately with this matter, what practical ways would you suggest?

« There is no longer any silence in the houses. Either the radio, or the stereo, or the television is working, and often all three at the same time. In a single day, all the horrors committed in the world will have been transported to your homes, with loud cries and noise.
I repeat, unlike the animal world, the small of humans is fragile until the age of seven. Also the disastrous effect of the long exposures to the din and the abundance of disordered images is not sufficiently compensated by the softness of the maternal arms or breast. The child thus decentered can refocus only by the affectionate touch of the parents.
The child placed in this context (his only contact with the world) develops fear of life, exaggerated stress and ultimately illness. He is no longer comfortable in his skin, so he tries to live outside his skin.

To correct the situation it will be necessary to create inside the hearths of the hours of deep silence as compensation. During these moments of silence, the parents will have to touch, caress the child so that he regains confidence in the goodness of life. For the less young, we must invent games that help them refocus. »

- What happens to young people aged 7 to 20?

« Many, many illnesses are to be expected for these young people. They are very, very sensitive, stretched to the extreme by consumer goods which they also use to the extreme. They live completely outside of themselves and thus at the same time have a great fear of living. In addition to noise, chaotic music, images galore, we must add smoke, drugs and alcohol . We won't be able to save everything despite the best will in the world. So many gadgets have been put at their disposal to get them out of themselves and stun them that it's not clear where to start to wake them up . There exists on your planet a destructive music , which one could even qualify as haunted, uninhabited.

The first obstacle that arises is the children's lack of trust in the parents.

Another obstacle is the competitive spirit that takes up all the available time. We no longer have time to live; we must win at all costs, now.

And the computer that monopolizes the mind until it is exhausted! Scientific training requires long hours of mental exercise. Thus, if we add the strictly necessary hours of sleep and an hour or two of lightheadedness in leisure, we reach 24 hours in a day, and there has been no room to understand life and therefore love him. A dryness of heart then sets in, ever increasing. By stifling the love of life in this way, it is life that suffocates and suicide is contemplated. »

« (...) Your current society does not promote respect for the parent, the teacher or even the religious minister. And yet it will take adults to gain the trust of young people in order to be able to establish a dialogue. The notion of competition will have to be questioned, to understand that the most important thing is not to be the first, but simply to be there.

You have to tame the silence and love it. A silence can also be heard. At first, the contrast will be so great that these young people will believe that silence is in itself offensive.

That young people want to turn everything upside down, to change everything in order to change, this expresses well this feeling that they have of not living in their own skin, that they do not like life as it presents itself at every moment. »

message for young people

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mediumistic message
from Edgar Cayce's wife - 1994

« To all those on this planet, who are at the beginning of the mission of their incarnation, I say hello to them, because they are also and at the same time my brothers and my sisters exiled for some time from my world of light. Although this exile was accepted voluntarily

Excerpt from the page: "Why life" :

« Do not flee the Earth and what it imposes on you. When you were born, you entered into a real contract with this other you that you do not suspect. » (D. Meurois and A. Givaudan, 'Terre d'émeraude')

« We all wanted to come here, and we chose our own destiny. Everyone has what they need. We knew the physiognomy we would possess. All of this we wanted and needed. » [Betty J. Eadie, "In the Arms of Light"]
« We choose our parents, our husbands and our children who will be necessary for us to progress before being born. All the important people in our life, we have chosen them before according to their qualities which will be necessary for our growth. »

[ Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ]
following... and in all the brilliance of light-energy, we are filled with compassion for you because we are acutely aware of the dangers and risks of exile. You know how sad and destitute are all the refugees in special camps, in times of war and in the post-war period on your planet. This is how we sometimes feel about you and we always fear that you completely forget to ask us for help when the time is right. For us, it is the tragedy we fear, that is to say the final and definitive cut in communication or the fatal and definitive non-recognition of the mission (to Earth).
Exiled souls, please give us the signal, and we will open special compassionate channels that will flow. »

The radicalization

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« Sects constitute a terrible danger for young people brought up without faith or law. If at the moment when they feel a spiritual call, their path crosses that of a sect, they are ripe to fall; [and] the parents who offered no example can do nothing for them. » [ Maguy Lebrun ]

Without saying it or even admitting it to themselves, young people – all young people – seek God.
But not a god who would reward them for being docile or punish them for not complying with fabricated protocols. No, they want to believe in a father who does not judge. Who simply loves, and who is happy when He sees one of his children make a gesture for the other, towards the other. Because we are here to love each other, to help each other. And if God expects something from us, that's it, just that.

Those who proclaim to the young people of our cities that we are all brothers and promise them a better world in the beyond are only stating a truth. But if they brandish this truth, it is to use them, as the priests of all religions have always done.

Young people, beware: in Heaven, the torments of remorse and regret await those who have been used for evil on Earth, even if they thought they were doing the right thing.

Because man has a conscience

Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Every being is connected to their inner Self,
which is connected to God.

Our inner being

In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. » [ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages"] following...
and it is up to him to listen to it.

« Young people are looking for a challenge to take on. Sometimes we misplace them. In fact, many of them are searching for God. »
( Mother Teresa )