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The family,

 its foundations

The man is the pillar of the house,
the woman is the soul.



When one + one make ONE

Get off to a good start

Growing through each other's flaws

The soulmate

The arrival of children

Difficulties within the home

« Let two beings unite and the world is no longer the same;
 that two human creatures accept each other,
and creation takes on meaning. »

 (Elie Wiesel, "Hasidic Celebration")

 When one + one make ONE

 « According to Pythagoras, eternal truth manifests itself in the union of Man and Woman, in marriage. It was because she fulfilled in full consciousness these high functions considered divine by antiquity that the woman was truly the priestess of the family. »
(Édouard Schuré, 'Death and beyond')magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Édouard Schuré on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « The man represents the principle and the creative spirit, and the woman personifies nature. If these two beings succeed in penetrating each other completely, body, soul and spirit, they will form an epitome of the universe. To believe in God, the woman needs to see Him living in the man. Man, initiated, is alone capable of fertilizing the feminine soul, of transforming it by the divine ideal. And this ideal, the woman he loves, sends him back multiplied. She returns her transfigured image to him, she becomes his ideal. »
(Édouard Schuré, 'Death and beyond')

 « The family is a strong unit, capable of resisting external storms while remaining open to others. Everyone has their place and must know it. The father and the mother are the two pillars that hold the building together. The respect due to them is the basis of the laws that children must follow. Parents are in a way the representatives of God within the family unit. The example they set is no less important than the teaching they impart. At an esoteric level the family forms the name of the Creator on earth. »
 [ "Annaëlle Chimoni's book" ]

 « Marriage is a sacrament, for the unparalleled opportunity it offers. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

- What would be the result for society of the loosening of family ties?

 - A resurgence of selfishness. »
[Message collected by Allan Kardec]

 « We wanted to stay together, and this, combined with our growing maturity, is the real knot that has held our relationship together over the years. As we moved from one place to another, we made a simple commitment to do everything to maintain the unity of our home, whatever the cost. Our wishes converged first on the needs of the family, then on ourselves. »
[Betty J. Eadie, "In the Arms of Light"]

 People wanting to start a home, Edgar Cayce often advised to analyze themselves to determine what they were really looking for. If it was to satisfy a physical or emotional desire, they would not be happy in the household.

« The success of a marriage depends essentially on mental and spiritual cooperation, on the effort of each to help each other. »

 Cayce invited spouses to cultivate their love for each other, to taste the peace and joy of being together. He advised them to collaborate, to formulate a common ideal and to relate to it when they disagreed.

 While warning them of the dangers of selfish behavior, he encouraged them to understand the importance of their relationship, to support each other in times of trial, and to rely on each other.

« Remember that to love is to give. Love is built. Love grows. You can grow it or destroy it. Let everyone renounce their ego. The union of body, mind, and soul in marriage should be for the purpose of expressing unity, not for satisfying personal desires.

 Love endures, love forgives, love understands, love overcomes obstacles and sees in them opportunities to grow.

 Don't expect the other to always give and absolve. But live in unison and constantly seek to complement each other. »

Hey Paula

(Paul & Paula)



 Get off to a good start

 « Do not confuse love with the delirium of possession, which brings the worst suffering. Because contrary to common opinion, love does not cause suffering. But the instinct of ownership causes suffering, which is the opposite of love.
 So he who truly loves cannot be wronged.
 True love begins where you no longer expect anything in return. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « I condemn vanity. Love of dancing is not love of you who dance. Only the vain woman interrupts her walk to contemplate herself. She has nothing to receive from you except your applause.

 But if I meet that one who blushes and stammers, and who needs presents to learn to smile, because they are sea breezes and not captures, then I will become a path.

 I will neither humble myself nor humiliate him in love. I will be around her like space and in her like time. I will say to him: "Don't be in a hurry to know me, there is nothing about me to grasp. I am space and time in which to become."

 « (...) These run not to serve but to be seen.
 It is another thing to succeed in climbing the mountain, or, carried in a litter, to seek perfection from landscape to landscape. For no sooner have you measured the contours of the blue plain than you already find boredom there and ask your guides to take you elsewhere.

 I looked in the woman for the gift she could provide. Such, I desired it as a sound of bell whose nostalgia I would have tasted. But what are you going to do with the same sound, night and day? You quickly put the bell back in the attic and no longer know the need for it. Such another, I wanted it for a subtle inflection of the voice when she said "You, my lord…" but soon you get tired of the word and you dream of another song.

 And if I gave you ten thousand women, one after another, you would immediately empty them of their particular virtue, and you would need many more to fill you, for you are diverse according to the seasons, according to the days, according to the winds.

 And yet no one will ever arrive at the knowledge of a single soul, and that there are secrets of each one, an interior landscape of inviolate plains, of ravines of silence, of heavy mountains, of secret gardens.

 These same are, they too, arable lands with the great horizons, where you would lose yourselves.

 But I was trying to collect the honey ready-made from hive to hive, and not to penetrate this expanse which at first will offer you nothing and will require you to step and step.

 I want to build the ceremonial of love so that the party leads me elsewhere. Because nothing that I seek, and that I thirst for, and that men thirst for, is from the level of materials.

 And one goes astray to search among the stones for what is not of their essence, when he could use them to build a basilica. So, such and such a woman, I make her disparate if I don't read through her.

 All I care about is that the one who sleeps and whom I'll soon wake up isn't the wall I'm bumping into, but the door that leads elsewhere.

 So with the sleeping wife. To consider she for itself I will immediately go weary and seek elsewhere. Because she is less beautiful than the other, or of sour character, and if even here she is perfect in appearance, the fact remains that she does not make a certain bell sound for which I feel nostalgic, remains that she says everything wrong the "You, my lord..." whose lip of another would make music for the heart.

 But sleep reassured in your imperfection, imperfect spouse. I don't run into a wall. You are not goal and reward and jewel venerated for oneself, of which I would tire immediately, you are road, vehicle and cartage. And I will never tire of becoming. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 Growing through each other's flaws

 « That one, in her disloyalty and her deviations, solicited more of me and forcing me to live in the silence which is a sign of true love, gave me a taste for eternity.

 (...) It may be that this one, which is more beautiful, more complete, more generous, nevertheless shows you God less closely. You have nothing of her to reassure, to collect. And if she asks you to take care of her entirely and to shut yourself up in her love, she asks you to be nothing more than selfishness for two. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « You can run away from My first choice if you want (it's only My Idea of ​​your Perfect Self☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Every being is connected to their inner Self,
which is connected to God.

 Our inner being

 « In you there are two characters, one terrestrial, stuck to matter, mired in its heaviness, and the other celestial, letting itself be carried by the light. The moment you conceive your two poles, you become greedy for unity and begin your quest for purity. But that's also where the trouble begins! In the innocence of unconsciousness you found a certain tranquility, operating in the same patterns for generations, fit to taste the pleasures of the flesh.
 However, as soon as your consciousness opens to greater lucidity, your thirst for clarity comes up against the shadows.
 In the grip of an existential despair, your mind then plays monumental tricks on you. You become the prey of grief, terrible doubts, loneliness and your impatience.
 We are with you more than ever in these wanderings. Because then we recognize in you the flame, the inner fire.

 Then begins an interior dialogue between your soul, which has already recognized us, and us who are your servants, your companions on the way. At your side, ready to support you in the difficult passages, smiling at your stammerings as a child of light.

 In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages"]
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which makes you see the apparent imperfections of the companion I have given you), but know that you cannot run away from your own personality.

 For a sympathetic and praiseworthy companion would only foster in you personal pride, further developing the egotistical side of your nature. While an unsympathetic companion will force you to withdraw into yourself, and to turn inward, where I dwell.

 Likewise, a loving, trusting and accommodating companion would only encourage your selfishness and your vanity, as long as you are not yet sufficiently well established in the consciousness of My Impersonal Love; while a tyrannical, suspicious and unsympathetic companion will impose upon you the discipline of the soul which you still need.

 If you knew! He who assumes the role of your current companion has come to teach you through authoritarianism, contradiction, extreme selfishness and deviousness. These defects are only the shadows of qualities that are in you.

 (...) For as long as you cannot see this Soul in all Its Divine beauty, free from its earthly bonds which, for the moment, weaken and indispose it; it will always be impossible for you to find and recognize the Ideal you seek.

 This sad and chained Soul, this Angel of Heaven
☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Every being is connected to their inner Self,
which is connected to God.

 Our inner being

 « In you there are two characters, one terrestrial, stuck to matter, mired in its heaviness, and the other celestial, letting itself be carried by the light. The moment you conceive your two poles, you become greedy for unity and begin your quest for purity. But that's also where the trouble begins! In the innocence of unconsciousness you found a certain tranquility, operating in the same patterns for generations, fit to taste the pleasures of the flesh.
 However, as soon as your consciousness opens to greater lucidity, your thirst for clarity comes up against the shadows.
 In the grip of an existential despair, your mind then plays monumental tricks on you. You become the prey of grief, terrible doubts, loneliness and your impatience.
 We are with you more than ever in these wanderings. Because then we recognize in you the flame, the inner fire.

 Then begins an interior dialogue between your soul, which has already recognized us, and us who are your servants, your companions on the way. At your side, ready to support you in the difficult passages, smiling at your stammerings as a child of light.

 In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages"]
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, that other part of My and of your Self, which came to you beating its wings against the bars of the cage of Her personality, in which you contribute to keep Her locked up; strives, however, to express through you Impersonal Love, tenderness and attentive care for others. »
 ( Joseph Sieber Benner, "The Impersonal Life" -1914- )LoupeAuteurContributions by Joseph Benner on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE ou DEATH

 The soulmate

In a reading, Cayce defines this notion as follows:

 « It's about all the people who are a complement, a response for each other. We're not talking about purely physical attraction; we place ourselves on the mental and spiritual planes. »

To a question asked by a couple, he answers:

 « We could have a lasting marital relationship with various soul mates. Each option leading to particular experiences. » [a reading by Edgar Cayce]

When a young girl asked Edgar Cayce if his friend was the man she should marry, he replied (under self-hypnosis) : « He's one of those you can marry. »

To another who asked her if she would be as happy, or happier, marrying someone other than her fiancé, Cayce said: « One could name twenty-five or thirty names. It all depends on how you work towards the happiness of your couple. Happiness creates itself. It is what you make of it. »
 « As for your true 'Soul Mate', who is waiting for you somewhere, as others have led you to believe; stop looking for her. For it exists only in your own Soul, and not outside in some other body.

 For what within you yearns to complete itself is only your sense of ME and My Presence within that yearns to be recognized and expressed. I, your own Divine Counterpart
☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Every being is connected to their inner Self,
which is connected to God.

 Our inner being

 « In you there are two characters, one terrestrial, stuck to matter, mired in its heaviness, and the other celestial, letting itself be carried by the light. The moment you conceive your two poles, you become greedy for unity and begin your quest for purity. But that's also where the trouble begins! In the innocence of unconsciousness you found a certain tranquility, operating in the same patterns for generations, fit to taste the pleasures of the flesh.
 However, as soon as your consciousness opens to greater lucidity, your thirst for clarity comes up against the shadows.
 In the grip of an existential despair, your mind then plays monumental tricks on you. You become the prey of grief, terrible doubts, loneliness and your impatience.
 We are with you more than ever in these wanderings. Because then we recognize in you the flame, the inner fire.

 Then begins an interior dialogue between your soul, which has already recognized us, and us who are your servants, your companions on the way. At your side, ready to support you in the difficult passages, smiling at your stammerings as a child of light.

 In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages"]
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, the Spiritual part of you, your other half, am the one you must be united with before you can finish what you have come to express on Earth. »
 ( Joseph Sieber Benner, "The Impersonal Life" -1914- )LoupeAuteurContributions by Joseph Benner on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE ou DEATH

 The arrival of children

 « One of the most valuable services a couple can render is to allow a soul to come to earth.

 (...) The ideals and objectives of future parents at the time of conception as well as during pregnancy are decisive for the soul that will decide to be born in this environment. According to Cayce's readings, the thoughts, feelings and activities of expectant parents create a vibrational field. »
[a reading by Edgar Cayce]

 Difficulties within the home

 « I will be especially present in your home, where I teach you many wonderful things through your relatives; what you can now understand and accept, whereas before you vigorously rebelled against this truth. By means of your husband, your wife, your child, your brother, your sister, or more specifically by the tyrant, the complainer or the selfish, I will now be able to develop great qualities in you: patience, kindness, tolerance, benevolence, selflessness, a compassionate heart and measured speech.
 I will lead you to see that I am present in the depths of their hearts, as I am in yours.
 You will also see that their personalities are driven to give you exactly what yours continues to crave, because of the weaknesses that still reside there.
☆ Excerpt from the page: "The why of suffering" :

 « Our sufferings come from our imperfections. »
[ Maguy Lebrun ]

 « The sorrows of life are often the consequence of the imperfection of the Spirit; he who is neither envious, nor jealous, nor miserly, nor ambitious, will not have the torments which arise from these faults. »
[Message collected by Allan Kardec]

If we were "smooth", nothing would "stick", we would not suffer.

As long as we are miserly, giving costs us;
as long as we don't control ourselves, a nothing carries us away;
as long as we hate the other, his mere presence upsets us.
As long as we identify with our ego, we suffer if it is offended or frustrated.

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 And the more the situation seems unbearable to the personality (your ego) , the greater the need.

 When you truly understand this great truth, you will be able to ME see in your brother, in your wife or in your child. You will be able to guess a kind of call in the depths of their eyes, which will then appear loving and melancholy to you, at the same time as they will speak to you in a thoughtless, selfish or full of anger way. So instead of blaming them for their so-called faults, you'll turn inside☆ I speak to you much more clearly directly from within, provided you turn confidently to ME, to help you. Because I guard M he holiest secrets for those who turn inwardly to ME., towards ME, who through you will speak sweet words of kindness; immediately relieving their hearts, bringing you closer and strengthening your emotional bonds.

 When you can do this, when awakening comes
☆ Excerpt from the page: "The awakening" :

The unconscious go through existence in a semi-sleep. They ignore that difficulties constitute the reason for life.
Fundamentally just, these disturbing events are there to forge us, wake us up or consolidate us. Their intensity depends on the depth of our sleep and what we are able to bear.

Those who cling to their dreams, life lets them sleep.
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What is awakening?

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  The task of the animal is centered on itself.
  He only enjoys what is his.
  Its air, its food, its child.

  It's (must be) just the opposite in humans.
 [ Dialogues with the Angel ]

In a state of non-awakening, we give our attention only to our person and to what revolves around it.

« The world is in the state it is in because it is full of sleepwalkers. »
[ Arnaud Desjardins, 'The paths of wisdom' ]

« The men who are still sleeping each live in a different world; those who have awakened all live in the same world. »
( Heraclitus (Greek philosopher ~540 BC) )

 « You pass through the earthly trial like a vapor – unconsciously! All the tribulations that should give you the jump you need to wake up, remain powerless and in vain. »
[ Celestial Messages from Pierre Monnier ]

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, you will be amazed by the changes you will witness; both in your personality and in those of your loved ones.
 Then the heavens will open before you, you will never again see imperfection in your neighbour, and you will no longer perceive discords around you; you will no longer feel malice from anyone.

 Yes, your best school and your greatest teacher are in your own home.

 You who have received; you have to give. You who have been awakened; you must now awaken the others. You must bring in your business, in your liberal profession, in your manual work or in the slums, My Living Presence; and you must open the doors of these sad and sick hearts, letting My Light and My Love flow through you, so that they can rise up and free themselves from the influence of the events of the world and so that they can subsequently become the masters, and no longer the slaves, of the surrounding conditions.

 You who read, and whose Soul understands, you are blessed and your task is all laid out before you. »

(Joseph Benner, The Impersonal Life-1914)LoupeAuteurContributions by Joseph Benner on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE ou DEATH

Floating picture  « Don't marry for money,
   you can borrow cheaper. »
(English proverb)