« No matter how hard I look, everything got tangled up in my head,
I feel like I've been going around in circles for years. »

**

What to do in the face of suffering?

Try to understand life
Another look at suffering
Is the truth hidden?
Misunderstanding and humility
Suffering and our imperfections
Suffering and Evolution
So suffering is salvation?
but is she unavoidable?


Seeing people suffer hurts me.
But it is their blindness that must be tackled,
because an understood suffering becomes bearable.

The woman who gives birth knows it, she who laughs under her tears.

Just as panic precipitates drowning, the panic of pain, the illusion of being persecuted leads to despair.

The priority is therefore not to treat the pain,
nor even to remove the problems,
but to

Understand life.
Its reason for being...

because to understand is to (re)find the strength to fight.

 « Who has failed and does not understand,
finds it difficult to survive. » [ "To those who seek" ]

 Understanding reconciles with life.

 « L'ignorance est cause de grands malheurs sur cette Terre. » (Martin Gray, 'The Forces of Life')  
Life as it is presented to us is a decoy, a huge deception.
It is said to be unique, with a beginning (joyful) and an end (anguishing, sad), and that we must therefore take advantage of it, and prolong it at all costs.
 This vision is the cause of all our misfortunes.
A life is only a passage (often painful, but short) in the (long, very long) life of a soul.

 “Life is but a night spent in a bad inn.” (Saint Teresa of Avila)

 Another look at suffering

Suffering is there to awaken and guide the soul
but the mental refuses it with all its might.

 « Our immature nature is responsible for our unhappiness. This childishness conditions us. We focus on unimportant events, a lot of details which cause great suffering. It is essential to transform our gaze in order to take into account only what gives real meaning to our existence. » [ Dalai Lama ]
We can give all sorts of qualifiers to life: sad, cruel, unjust, despicable...
It does however only fulfill its role: that of kneading man.

Tiphil
and
Grobert By mixing situations, encounters, clashes, she forges it.
Our soul knows this, and that is why it has descended into this merciless arena that is Earth.

 You have to meditate for a long time before accepting this.

 « Thwarted desires, unfulfilled desires and impulses, cruel separations, indifference, deceit, the casualness of those we love, refusals to repeated requests, vexations, all of this can, paradoxically, turn out to be very profitable, if the point of view is changed. » (Daniel Robin, 'Death and beyond')   Contributions by Daniel Robin on the theme of:

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- What if I don't understand? If I'm in too much pain to try to understand?
- Then bow your back and wait. Everything passes.
 « Those who do not admit the law of suffering and are indignant at it are like children who do not discern their mother's love in chastisement.
 (...) The ordeal is really, textually, a proof of love. » [ Celestial Messages from Pierre Monnier ]

Trials teach us

 « The worst circumstances in life can carry with them a lesson that concerns us directly, and that we must try to understand. » (Message collected by Daniel Robin, 'Death and beyond')   Contributions by Daniel Robin on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 « It is not for the ship to be indulgent to the assaults of the sea, nor for the sea to be gentle to the ship, because, of the first, they will sink, and of the second, they'll be bastardized into flatboats. » [ Saint-Exupéry ]
Thanks to Saint-Exupéry, when I suffer, I think of the being who grows in me Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Our double

 Our inner being

Deep within us lies our eternal being; the one who came to incarnate on Earth, the time of a lifetime; who sometimes gives us advice. This marvelous part of ourselves binds us to other men, and to God; just as in the soil, all the roots of all plants join in mother earth.

_ _

 « In you there are two characters, one terrestrial, stuck to matter, mired in its heaviness, and the other celestial, letting itself be carried by the light. The moment you conceive your two poles, you become greedy for unity and begin your quest for purity. But that's also where the trouble begins! In the innocence of unconsciousness you found a certain tranquility, operating in the same patterns for generations, fit to taste the pleasures of the flesh.  However, as soon as your consciousness opens to greater lucidity, your thirst for clarity comes up against the shadows.
 In the grip of an existential despair, your mind then plays monumental tricks on you. You become the prey of grief, terrible doubts, loneliness and your impatience.
 We are with you more than ever in these wanderings. Because then we recognize in you the flame, the inner fire.

 Then begins an interior dialogue between your soul, which has already recognized us, and us who are your servants, your companions on the way. At your side, ready to support you in the difficult passages, smiling at your stammerings as a child of light.

 In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. » [ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages"] following... . So, instead of complaining about myself, I say to myself: "I moult."

 « Thank God for all the tears, all the heartbreaks that strip your real being of the mask it wears. » [ Celestial Messages from Pierre Monnier ]
 « Humans cannot realize that the most beautiful transformations of the soul take place in pain! » [Paqui, "Heavenly Talks"]
 « Unfortunately, fear must be distilled. Man is so made that he only advances if he is prodded. Otherwise he falls asleep. » [ "To those who seek" ]

 Is the truth hidden?

 « Life is not a school. Your soul already knows everything, but it wants to experience it. Life is an opportunity for you to know experientially what you already know conceptually. To do this, you must remember what you already know and then put it into practice.

 (...) Being is only achieved through experience.

 Evolution is such: to know, to experience, to be.

 (...) By demonstrating what you already know, you will surpass yourself and create yourself again, through your experience. Thus you will sanctify life.

 And for your experience to be total, it was necessary that you release, deny, forget, your bond with Me. »

[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]
 « But you know dad, what I just told you, everyone knows. Everyone already knows it intuitively, it's in us.
 But we constantly lie to ourselves. We deceive, without realizing it, our deep nature, which is our true self Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

Every being is connected to their inner Self,
which is connected to God.

 Our inner being

 « In you there are two characters, one terrestrial, stuck to matter, mired in its heaviness, and the other celestial, letting itself be carried by the light. The moment you conceive your two poles, you become greedy for unity and begin your quest for purity. But that's also where the trouble begins! In the innocence of unconsciousness you found a certain tranquility, operating in the same patterns for generations, fit to taste the pleasures of the flesh.  However, as soon as your consciousness opens to greater lucidity, your thirst for clarity comes up against the shadows.
 In the grip of an existential despair, your mind then plays monumental tricks on you. You become the prey of grief, terrible doubts, loneliness and your impatience.
 We are with you more than ever in these wanderings. Because then we recognize in you the flame, the inner fire.

 Then begins an interior dialogue between your soul, which has already recognized us, and us who are your servants, your companions on the way. At your side, ready to support you in the difficult passages, smiling at your stammerings as a child of light.

 In your heart of hearts, ego of earth and soul of light manifest themselves to each other and show themselves in turn. There is no point in adjusting them with a master's hand, there is no point in wishing for their fruitful friendship. Their role is not to oust each other. Thus you grow, by making in you the union of your part of incarnated man and your part of brilliance of light. It is there, in the balanced axis between these two aspects of yourself, that you touch that you touch the new dimension that allows you to Over-Live (among earthly torments). Then your personality of light irrigates your being incarnated in matter for a happy birth: that of the new Man in you, an incarnated reflection of the Father Creator. » [ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages"] following... . We don't want to see who we really are. We want to ignore that God is in each of us.
 Life has meaning. The life of every man on Earth has meaning.
 Life on Earth has a purpose, a meaning; that of loving and progressing spiritually, of developing one's consciousness. » (Message collected by Daniel Robin, 'Death and beyond')   Contributions by Daniel Robin on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH
 « You have to become to understand.
 I have no other way of explaining to you the life to which I invite you than to commit yourself to it by force. »
(A landscape is only discovered once the mountain has been climbed) [ Saint-Exupéry ]
 « If it is true that man can, by putting his hand in front of his eyes, hide the light, it is no less true that he can discover it simply by removing his hand. » [Elie Wiesel, 'Hasidic Celebration']
 « When man opens up inside, the world is transfigured. » (Daniel Robin, 'Death and beyond')    Contributions by Daniel Robin on the theme of:

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 Misunderstanding and humility

Let's be humble, let's accept not to understand everything, right away.

 « Unless you are incorrigibly proud, you should admit that the limitation of your perceptions places you, in the hierarchy of universal intelligence, at about the level of a fish in relation to man. » [ "To those who seek" ]
«(...) she will open herself to this teaching with a true humility, one that does not lower, but elevates. » [ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]
 « The roses down here may look like thistles to you, but don't forget that you are ignorant; your eyes will only open when they close in daylight. » [Paqui, "Heavenly Talks"]
 « All progress of man is to discover, one after another, that his questions have no meaning. Over the years, the truth comes, like the erasure of a question. » [ Saint-Exupéry ]
 « Learned men do not mourn over the living or the dead (because they know that the trials are there for our advancement, and that death is only a transition). » (Krishna)
 « Do not judge ; you neither must nor can: an atom cannot apprehend the universe. The subtlest intelligence is incapable of explaining the mystery of pain. Faith alone can enlighten it. » [Paqui, "Heavenly Talks"]

 ☞  The meaning of things

 Suffering and our imperfections

 « (some of our) Our sufferings come from our imperfections. » [ Maguy Lebrun ]
 « The sorrows of life are often the consequence of the imperfection of the Spirit; he who is neither envious, nor jealous, nor miserly, nor ambitious, will not have the torments which arise from these faults. » [Message collected by Allan Kardec]

Yes, our imperfections can be the source of suffering. If we were "smooth" (perfects), nothing would "cling", Earth-related suffering would disappear.
 For the envious man suffers for what he does not have, and the selfish man trembles to lose what he does have.;
 as long as we don't control ourselves, we get carried away for nothing;
 as long as we hate the other, his proximity upsets us;
 as long as we identify with our ego, we suffer if it is hurt.

 « It takes so many years and so many rollings for a pebble thrown into the sea to lose its angles; it is the same for the dross of the soul.

 Man, sharpen your soul on the stone of trials. » [Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]
 « When you have erased all your roughness, your moods, all you'll be left with is the divine parcel. » [ Message collected by Maguy Lebrun ]
 « Make everything smooth within you. » [Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]
 - The vicissitudes of life being a consequence of our faults or failings, does it follow that from the nature of these vicissitudes we can know our weaknesses?

 « Very often. So such will be punished A being punishes himself when, by a deliberate choice, he wishes to catch up with a life that has left him with remorse. for his pride through humiliation; he who has been hard on others, by the hardships he will undergo; the bad son, by the ingratitude of his children.
 However, this should not be made an absolute rule. Instinctive tendencies are a more certain clue. » [Message collected by Allan Kardec]
 Thus a man speaks of his past life to a medium:

 « To erase my previous faults, I had to undergo these ordeals which I voluntarily accepted. I drew from the firmness of my resolutions the strength to bear them without a murmur. I bless them today, these trials. I can now contemplate the path travelled.

 O you who have made me suffer on earth, who have been harsh and malevolent, who have humiliated me and made me bitter, whose bad faith has often reduced me to privations, not only do I forgive you, but I thank you. By wanting to hurt me, you had no idea that you would do me so much good. You have provided me with the opportunity to return good for evil. God has placed you in my path to ordeal my patience. »

  (…) Then he exposes his impressions some time after his awakening in the afterlife:

 « I had not yet freed myself from earthly ideas; the memory of what I had endured came back to me from time to time, as if to make me better appreciate my new situation. I had suffered bodily, but above all morally; I had been the target of malevolence, of those thousand perplexities more painful perhaps than real misfortunes, because they cause perpetual anxiety. Their impression was not yet completely erased, I still seemed to hear certain unpleasant voices. I groped myself, so to speak, to make sure that I was not the plaything of a dream; and when I had become certain that it was all over, it seemed to me that an enormous weight had been lifted from me.

 Oh ! If all men understood the future life, what strength, what courage would this conviction not give them in adversity! » [Message collected by Allan Kardec]

 Suffering and Evolution

When we have found the right path,
we are willing to endure the hardships that come with it.

✩ ✩

 « If you don't suffer, you don't grow

The fulfillment of our being

 « The purpose of our life during our passage on Earth, then after our death, in the various worlds of the beyond, is an increasingly complete realization of our being. » [ Patricia Darré (medium) ]
 « Every soul must become aware of itself little by little.

 In evolution, the mineral will become vegetable, the vegetable will become animal and the animal will become human. It is the long chain of life. » (Hélène Bouvier, medium, "Mission of souls in the afterlife")
 « The important thing for you is to evolve in order to modify your vibrational state.
 The Earth is a domain that allows the soul to modify its vibrations through more or less difficult life experiences. » (R. Terral-Meyer, 'Lettres de l’invisible')
continued... . You have to go through pain, tears and anger. Each time you go through it, you grow, you progress. There is nothing more important in life than your progress. Nobody progresses if everything is brought to them on a plate. Person. » [ Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ]

 « The cruel moments of life are necessary, indispensable, since it is through suffering, alas, that the soul rises and understands. » [Paqui, "Heavenly Talks"]
 « I would like to make your anguished hearts understand the usefulness of accepted suffering. If you could follow my thought, I would tell you that not only must you accept suffering, but also love it, because it is redemptiveWho redeems the faults ; perhaps that is too much to ask of the human heart. » [Paqui, "Heavenly Talks"]
 « All suffering is sacred; for pain is the crucible of souls. » (Édouard Schuré, 'Death and beyond')   Contributions by Édouard Schuré on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH
 « The more important the problems are, the more they represent an opportunity to grow internally. We must consider the trials of life, not as impassable walls, but as stairs which should allow us to rise spiritually. We must consider adversity as an opportunity offered to us to grow internally and expand our consciousness. » (Message collected by Daniel Robin, 'Death and beyond')    Contributions by Daniel Robin on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH
 « He who has been thirsty in the sand experiences the song of absence. But there is nothing to give you if you have not suffered because there is nothing in you. » [ Saint-Exupéry ]

It is only when one is dissatisfied with life that awakening Excerpt from the page: "The awakening" :

The unconscious, those who go through existence in a semi-sleep, are unaware that life is just that: hardships.
These trials that are there to wake us up or strengthen us are never cruel or arbitrary, they are just and useful; their intensity depends on the depth of our sleep and what we are able to bear.

Those who cling to their dreams, life lets them sleep, but the awakening will be brutal.

**

What is awakening?

  The task of the animal is centered on itself.
  He only enjoys what is his.
  Its air, its food, its child.

  It's (must be) just the opposite in humans.  [ Dialogues with the Angel ]
In a state of non-awakening, we give our attention only to our person and to what revolves around it.

 « The world is in the state it is in because it is full of sleepwalkers. » [ Arnaud Desjardins, 'The paths of wisdom' ]
 « The men who are still sleeping each live in a different world; those who have awakened all live in the same world. » ( Heraclitus (Greek philosopher ~540 BC) )
 « You pass through the earthly trial like a vapor – unconsciously! All the tribulations that should give you the jump you need to wake up, remain powerless and in vain. » [ Celestial Messages from Pierre Monnier ]
following... is possible.

 So suffering is salvation?

It is the means, not the end (see "The negative suffering" below )

 « Seeking suffering is an abomination. You simply have to accept life as it presents itself, and if you cannot avoid suffering, then it is better to accept it with love than to rebel or flee it by closing in on yourself. » ( abbot Pierre )   Contributions of abbot Pierre on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH
 « Suffering is not God's way, but rather a sign that there is still something to learn about God's way. » [Inspired message to Neale Walsch]
 « Suffering in itself has no moral significance if it does not give rise to altruism.

 There are sufferings that remain useless when all should serve to bring souls closer to the immense goal expected by God, the reign of love. » [ Celestial Messages from Pierre Monnier ]

Suffering can be even negative (Cf. below) )

but is she unavoidable?

  SUFFERING [in itself] DOES NOT TEACH,
   DO NOT RAISE.
   SUFFERING IS NOT NECESSARY.

 (...) Suffering is only the guide of the animal.
  The beginning of the Path
  is the end of suffering. [ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]
 « Suffering can be experienced as a springboard to sharing. It's always a bad thing and should never be sought after or magnified. But this evil can lead to heights of humanity.
  (...) Any overcome suffering is the occasion of a growth of being, of a progress in the conscience. » ( abbot Pierre )

To understand the meaning of life
is to give yourself a chance to elevate your spirit in peace or joy rather than in pain.
 « The law of compensation neither punishes nor rewards. It is man himself who puts it into action, by creating the positive or negative conditions.

 Karmic effects Excerpt from the page: "Reincarnation" :

karma

Karma is a Sanskrit word for fate. It is sometimes evoked during dramas that seem incomprehensible and unfair, but it can manifest itself in pleasant events. We can say that it tends to restore a balance.
There is no bad karma. Everything that happens to us is fundamentally good, because karma has only one goal: to awaken, to raise our consciousness.

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 « It is great justice to warn man: you will reap what you have sown. No one inflicts punishment on you, no one condemns you, but you sew your own shroud according to the meaning you give to your life. For the responsible man there will be no "day of (self-) judgment", because it is from day to day that he judges himself. » [ "To those who seek" ]
following... will be deleted if the evolution acquired makes an experience useless. » [ R. Bernard, Grand Master of the Rose Croix ]
 « A spiritual evolution can avoid certain trials, which no longer have a reason to exist. » [ Maguy Lebrun ]
 « The penal colony resides where blows with a pickaxe are given,
which have no meaning. » [ Saint-Exupéry ]
 « Revolt is born of non-understanding. We must ask for help from the world of light in order to fully understand the whole lesson, because as soon as it is well learned, evil will no longer have its reason for being.

 - And if the evil persists in the same form?

 « If the evil continues, it is because the lesson was badly learned. Meditate, ask for help; the answer will necessarily come and this form of evil will cease. But, you will tell me, if the next day, a new form of evil sets in, you will quickly conclude that the planet is nothing but a vale of tears. And there, I tell you to start again very humbly to re-understand a new lesson. » [a reading by Edgar Cayce]

Suffering, when prolonged,
is similar to maceration.
The being who will come out of it does not depend on the ordeal
but on his attitude towards it.

“All moulting is suffering. says Saint-Exupéry,
but not all suffering produces a change.

**

The negative suffering

  « Suffering is a 'trial' in the etymological sense of the word. When it is accepted, it dematerializes, purifies. You can suffer infinitely, and all your life, without getting closer to Heaven.
 Only suffering accepted elevates. » [ Celestial Messages from Pierre Monnier ]
 « Evil does not come from suffering or fear, but from the refusal of suffering and fear. A circumstance is perceived as "bad", so it is not accepted, which gives rise to a negative, painful emotion in us. » [ Arnaud Desjardins, 'Yoga and spirituality' ]
 « Combat sterile suffering, confined to itself. Every trial is a path that opens.

 [...] There are two kinds of grief: purifying grief and demoralizing grief, which bears no fruit. » [Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]
 « There are sufferings that remain useless. » [ Celestial Messages from Pierre Monnier ]
 « Your guardian angel rejoices in the evils which have the effect of shortening your time of trial. But he grieves when you do not bear them with resignation; because these evils are then without result for you: you are like the patient who rejects the bitter drink which must cure him.

 Know well that what seems evil to you is not always evil; often a good must come out of it which will be greater than the bad, and this is what you do not understand, because you only think of the present moment or of your person. » [Message collected by Allan Kardec]

[ What to do in turmoil? ]

 « We must remember
that if a situation cannot be changed,
there is no point in worrying about it. »

( Dalai Lama )

The "letting go"

  « In all things do what you can, and for the rest leave it to God. » (Gandhi)   Contributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH
 « After the efforts, you must leave behind the busyness, retreat into solitude, and there, repeat to yourself : God will decide, God will decide. » [Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]
 « When a misfortune has already happened, it is better not to worry about it, so we don't add to it. » ( Dalai Lama )
 « Deep inside me, for the first time I feel Peace descending despite my fear of the unknown. Yes, I actively accept, I accept. I have confidence, even if I do not understand the reason for the material disaster that is happening to me (she just lost her job). This deep peace, I'll learn later, is called "letting go".

 (...)Now, deep inside herself, she understood perfectly. That she lets herself be guided, that she calms down in her head so that God can come down. » (A. Ray-Wendling, "A Sun Too Late")   Contributions by Anne Ray-Wendling on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH


 « I learned to set aside the desires of the ego and let life lead me freely in the direction of its choosing. » (J. Van Praagh, 'Dialogues with the Beyond')   Contributions by James Van Praagh on the subject of:

The WAY , LIFE or DEATH

 Faced with the vicissitudes of life, I try to be docile; I think of the twig carried by the current, the leaf carried by the wind.

 « Do not seek to direct or direct events, for you live in the stretchers of your destiny, and an angel holds the reins. If God calls you, you can die this very second. » [Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]
 « Whatever happens is good. God has his purposes, which we cannot know in this world. Place yourself body and soul in his hands. Do not seek, do not ask yourself anything; as you progress spiritually you will have glimmers. » [Paqui, "Heavenly Talks"]
 « Beyond the everyday there is a sublime reality that our concerns, our desires and fear prevent us from seeing. Whoever stops on the side of the road knows (he can then take stock of his existence). He who knows believes in life. » [ Maguy Lebrun ]
 « (...) Like many humans, his "Me I" wants life to be as he conceives it; This "Me I" who wants to prove his existence for fear of dissolving into nothingness. »

 « I realized that to mourn an ideal world is to grow a little more inside yourself.

 (...) To renounce the world as we would have wanted it is to accept no longer controlling, it is to accept that Life offers us what we would not have thought of and which allows us to go deeper within us. » (A. Givaudan, 'La rupture de contrat')   Contributions by Anne Givaudan on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE , HEALTH or DEATH
 « Know how to acquire the wisdom to be totally well, where you are. Don't cast covetous glances at a hypothetically better future. » [Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « On the other side, on the Earth where you live, they still control you, and manipulate you.... Your daily worries are legion and devour you from within if you are not careful, if you don't let go....you'll follow them....in their fall.
 So come back here to us, as often as possible, we are always ready to welcome you, to help you.... Let go of everything....
 I know that everything is already realized within you....regarding your future, and your choice....
 But this is a reminder, because your daily life takes you away from the good energies within you....
 Make your daily life a new day.... enter into joy and gratitude.... be aware that you are loved and that nothing can diminish you, nothing can affect you anymore.... be careful of your thoughts.... you also project with your mind negative images, fears, always so many fears.....
 Your dreams will see the light of day, your dreams have already been realized.... you still have to live them. » (An anonymous message from beyond)

 Fixing your attention on the pain,
 accentuates it

One day, having pinched myself, I wanted to evacuate the black ball that appeared at the end of my finger. I proceeded to gently slice the skin with a razor blade. The more I concentrated on the operation, the more the pain worsened. But I continued, marveling at the thickness of the skin. When, finally, the little drop of blood spurted out, I was sweating!

I learned from this lesson that focusing on pain multiplies it.

 « Very often the one who suffers is either absorbed by his physical pain, or identified with his moral pain. There comes a time when nothing else exists but that. But energy follows thought Excerpt from the page: "The thought" :

The effect of our thoughts
on events

 One of Roland's last messages:

 « This is very important: know that thought can influence matter.  The course of events may be influenced by the course of your thoughts. There are inner attitudes that attract misfortune just as there are others that attract luck. »!-- Et à l’intérieur de ce phénomène, il y en a un autre : les pensées reliées à nous. -->
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]
 « Good thoughts, positive thoughts, are truly a spiritual alchemy whose power is miraculous. Their opposite, negative and malicious thoughts have a destructive power for the one who maintains them. »[ R. Bernard, Grand Master of the Rose Croix ] , there then follows a tension which cannot resolve itself and which prolongs this suffering. » [ Maguy Lebrun ]
 « Pain tries to be self-sufficient, pushes to suppress everything that is not pain. A being who really suffers does not want to do anything but suffer; he subordinates everything to his sadness. The weak will remain prostrate in this state.

 (...) Usually in physical illness the panicked body absorbs the mind. » [Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]
 « Suffering is an integral part of our lives. It is inseparable from it, so we must accept this fact and transform our attitude towards it. Opposing it only increases it. Stopping rebelling against it is the first step; then we can face it. The night becomes endless when sleep escapes us and we add our anxiety to it.

 If some suffering is impossible to overcome, it is all the more important to transform our state of mind vis-à-vis it. Assuming it makes it possible not to add unnecessary weight to this pain. » [ Dalai Lama ]

[ What to do in turmoil? ]

The magic of the smile

  « You don't realize how important a smile is. It's the soul that rejoices, that pierces the envelope to place a kiss on the soul of the other. » (A Guide) ( Christine André, 'The path of a soul' )    Contributions by Christine André on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE ou DEATH
 Your smile is your task. Everything else is superfluous.
 For everything there is an explanation. For joy there is none.
 What is sap for the plant is joy of living for man.
 Without joie de vivre – dryness.
 Always be full of joy of living!
 It really depends on you.

 The sap comes from below, the joy of living too. That's your business.

 The smile is the bridge. Not the grin, nor the laughter. Smile.
 Laughter is the opposite of crying. The smile has no opposite.
 Don't just smile when you're in a good mood!
 Your smile is a creative smile!
 There is no more: I am happy – I smile, I am sad – I cry.
  The child that you are, you raise it badly.

  I LIVE IN THE SMILE.
 I can't cry, because there's nothing to cry about.
 We must not cry over the loss.
 Wickedness, terror, darkness, your name is missing.
 Not lack of water, but lack of fire The Angel often speaks of the inner fire (love, fervor, faith...), which he opposes to lukewarmness:

 « What makes a room dark?
  The lamp that does not burn. The lamp is responsible. »

 « If Heaven burns within you – the old is consumed.
  If The Light burns within you,
  darkness can do nothing against you. »

 « Fire only hurts you where you need to change. »

 « Your task: to give fire. Always transmit the fire! »

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 You who want to help, the key to your teaching is a smile.
 Try!
 If your proteges reach the inner smile,
 their way of moving will change.

 God gives through you. The hand smiles, too. Everything smiles.

 If there is peace in you, joy is not far away.
 These feelings ( tears ) separate you from me.
 At this level I cannot go down.
-- another day --
(joyful greeting)

 - Today it is good to be here. (bright smile)

I often felt how difficult it was for my Master to come down and stay in our overly dense atmosphere. Today my joy makes things easier.
It points to the glass of water.

 - What fire does for you, water does for me. Fire is joyful - water is heavy.

 I understand that the more I burn with joy, the more I will be able to approach my Angel; on the other hand the fire of the Angel must be attenuated by water so that he can approach me.

 One day when we learned beyond any possible doubt of the existence of the gas chambers, we knew despair. We were literally thrown down and in such a depression that it was almost impossible for the Angels to reach us. Nevertheless the sternest, the most inaccessible of them - the Angel of Hanna - joined us in this abyss and begged us to rise. » [ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]
 « Everyone knows that suffering is a path that leads to God. Judaism is a reminder that joy leads to God, as mitzvah ( good deed) and holy spirit are incompatible with grief or despair.

 The joy of doing good is one of the highest experiences. » (Abraham Heschel, 'God in Search of Man')  
 « The man who looks at himself can only sink into melancholy, but as soon as he opens his eyes to the creation around him, he will know joy. » [Elie Wiesel, 'Hasidic Celebration']
 « To the isolated, empty Jew, the Rebbe said: " Your experience is not useless, it is inserted into a whole that takes it into account; know that eternity is found in every moment, that every table can become an altar and every man a high priest; know that more than one way leads to God, but the surest passes through joy and not through tears; know that God does not like pain and sadness; know that the way to God passes through man. The child who sleeps, the mother who caresses him, the old man who listens to the sound of the trees: to each one God is close, in each one God is present". » [Elie Wiesel, 'Hasidic Celebration']
Marcel Belline asks his deceased son:

 - Michel, every day I see men filled with goods and they are unhappy without feeling either hunger, thirst or physical suffering. What do they need?

 « Become useful creatures again. » (help those who are struggling around us) (Belline, "The Third Ear")    Contributions by Belline on the subject of::

LIFE or DEATH

[ What to do in the face of suffering? ]

The caterpillar does not understand what is going on inside it.
She suffers, but waits patiently
otherwise the chrysalis would tear.

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Dominate the mind

Turning away from the self
The seasons of the soul
Develop your patience
Develop the strength of your mind
Make peace within yourself

 Turning away from the self

 « You are in danger if you allow grief, anxiety, discouragement, fear to overwhelm you Excerpt from the page: "Despair, depression" :

Depression: danger

A problem is crushing us, we see no way out of it.

So we give up the fight.You don't have to.

Letting the soul sink represents an unsuspected danger:
 by lowering our vibrations in this way, our defenses fall, and the spirits of the lower astral are attracted and invade the mind.
Not necessarily the worst, but certainly the most depressed; those who inspire the worst resolutions.

   ☞ Wandering Spirits

     ☞ Attenuation . They isolate you. You position yourself as a victim, you no longer worry about yourself, you become depressed. » [ Dalai Lama ]
 « Men make themselves unhappy not by the things that happen, but by the way they see things that happen. » (Epictetus)
 « What happens only has the importance that we give to it. » (Message collected by A. Givaudan)
 « It is in depression that we are most self-centered. Nothing can undermine our natural strength and health more than prolonged neurasthenia. But when we apply ourselves to forgetting our ego and focusing on the needs of others, the healing takes place. » [Betty J. Eadie, "In the Arms of Light"]
 « Lay down your burden for a moment, think of the future, the great Future, the only one that really matters, the future of your soul. Prepare it without thinking about the fall or winter of your life. » [Paqui, "Heavenly Talks"]
It is often the future, near or far, for us or for those we love that worries us. However, the present, immediate moment is in itself rarely unbearable.
Why are children carefree? because only the immediate preoccupies him.

 ☞   The importance of the present moment

 The seasons of the soul

 « Don't grieve when nothing sings within you, for the soul has its cycles of silence. » [Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]
 « The road to eternity is long. Fervor is a stream of sunshine in the depths of being, it is a reverberation from beyond. As soon as this light ceases to illuminate you, the taste for life is extinguished within you. Accept without rebelling the ordeal of dull days.

 There are dreary days, without exit, deprived of God, of faith, of grace. Around you everything is collapsing, nothing seems to want to succeed. In these moments of abandonment one must withdraw into oneself. » [Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]
 « These are swooning and would have you believe that they are burning night and day. But they lie.

 The poet lies who speaks to you day and night of the intoxication of poetry. He sometimes suffers from a stomachache and mocks all poems.

 Lies the lover who claims to you that night and day he is consumed by thoughts of his beloved. A flea distracts him, for it bites. Or mere boredom, and he yawns.

 The saint lies who professes to you that night and day he beholds God. God withdraws from him at times, like the sea. And there he is, drier than a pebble beach. » [ Saint-Exupéry ]

 Develop your patience

 « Patience is the only way to overcome suffering. » [ Dalai Lama ]
 « The secret is called patience Excerpt from the page: "The human being" :

«Patience involves personal suffering. » (Gandhi)

Patience

***  « Patience makes tolerable what cannot be prevented. »  (Quintus Horatius Flaccus, known as HORACE (-65 to -8))
 « Patience. A word that is pronounced quickly, a virtue that is difficult to obtain. »  (Eric-Emmanuel Schmitt, 'The Gospel According to Pilate')

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Patience determines self-control.
Through it, suffering is overcome;
through it, the mind controls the ego.

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 « The ability to remain steadfast, whatever the circumstances, is a strength. » [ Dalai Lama ]
 « Time, Space and Patience are the means by which Man, as a limited spirit, becomes aware of the Infinite.

 Patience does not simply mean waiting, but it is the attitude of those who bring their nature into accord with the laws of Nature. » [a reading by Edgar Cayce]
 « The test, in any case, will end as soon as you have internally removed from it what is necessary for your evolution. Be patient, the ordeal will pass. » [ R. Bernard, Grand Master of the Rose Croix ]
 « Inner peace is the pivot that determines our behavior. » [ Dalai Lama ]
. Most men exclude expectation from their existence and that is their misfortune. » [Elie Wiesel, 'Hasidic Celebration']
 « Don't try to fight with bad currents.
 Fold up your sails and wait. » [Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]
 « You have to be able, when a problem arises, to cultivate an expectation made of calm, and to say to yourself with resignation: I must wait until, from the superior worlds, like a ray of light, the expected answer. » [ Rudolf Steiner ]

 Develop the strength of your mind

« As violent as the storm is,
if I break down, it's because I'm not strong enough. » [ "To those who seek" ]
 « Suffering is always a sign of improvement. It breaks or strengthens. » [ Sylvie Lorain-Berger, "The messengers from beyond" ]
 « My neighbor to the east, when he was paralyzed and one side of him turned cold and dead, and he carried with him that Siamese brother who no longer laughed, he lost none of his dignity; much better, he succeeds in this apprenticeship. To those who congratulated him on this he replied that he who reigns, if he does not reign first over his own body, is only a usurper. There is no downfall for me, but no doubt a marvelous joy, to free myself a little better today! » [ Saint-Exupéry ]
 « For he alone who commands himself can command others. » (Initiation given by Egyptian priests)
(Édouard Schuré, 'Death and beyond')   Contributions by Édouard Schuré on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH
 « The imperfections of the body are for the Spirit, trials which help its advancement if it overcomes the obstacles which it encounters there. »

[Message collected by Allan Kardec]
 « I take pleasure in facing the difficulties of the course, each additional step makes me stronger, and more able to take the next one. » (Gandhi)   Contributions of Mahatma Gandhi on the subject of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH
 « When you step onto the Path, your enemies are paramount. They represent a unique opportunity, a chance to progress by helping you develop patience and tolerance. » [ Dalai Lama ]
 « Courage, it is in the darkest hours that strong souls reveal themselves. » [Paqui, "Heavenly Talks"]

 Make peace within yourself

 «You have to accept in life what you cannot change. » (A. Givaudan, 'La rupture de contrat')  
 « [...] replace revolt with peace, anguish with acceptance. » [ Maguy Lebrun ]
 « If you have Inner Peace, nothing will be able to disturb your existence. If you are devoid of it, merely having a good position will not only fail to bring you happiness but may become a source of anxiety. The stability inherent in inner peace is the true source of Happiness. » [ Dalai Lama ]
  If there is peace in you,
  joy is not far away. [ "Dialogues with the Angel" ]
 « At any time, each of us can find wonderful inner peace through our ability to let go.

 (...) Making comparisons is probably the best way to be unhappy. Whatever our situation. » [ Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ]
 « We are born, it is to suffer; we live, it is to suffer; we love, it is to suffer; one works, it is to suffer.

 We climb what we will not cross, we begin what we will not complete, we believe what we will not prove, we build what we will not inhabit; we plant shade for others. No enjoyment, and for no one. Tyranny is heavy on tyrants; goodness is bitter to the good. Ingratitude, what a chalice! Nothing fits us; one never completely enters the place where one is; one does not recognize his mold in any of the hollows of life; there's always too much or too little. Elsewhere always seems preferable to here; our greatest plenitudes are emptiness. Only one serenity is possible, that of consciousness. Everything else is cloudy. » (Victor Hugo)    Contributions of Victor Hugo on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE , God or DEATH