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«This unique flower is the open window
on the knowledge of spring. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

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The expectations

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The loyalty, the constancy

The conflicts

The disappointments

The weariness

 « Every romantic relationship begins with a misunderstanding: the illusion that each person's fundamental incompleteness is going to be filled.
 Overcoming the first disappointments is a thankless task because the reality of living together never corresponds to the dreams that accompany the encounter. »
(Jacques Salome)
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Love

(Frederic Francois)


Lyrics
Let our hearts speak
Let our hearts love,
The rest doesn't matter
I think
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It takes thousands of days
For a lifetime of love
The rest doesn't matter
Believe me
To love is never to be alone again At last
To love It's always tonight and always tomorrow
I know
It hurts sometimes yet
Loving, It's the only way to really exist
Madly, I love you, I love you
I don't know where it's taking me
But I'm good everywhere if you're there.
I understood everything: I love you, I love you
And every day your eyes teach me
To be happy for the first time
To love is to need to be loved too
To love is to always give is to offer one's life
To love is to cry of joy near a cradle
And it's
To hold in these arms the most beautiful gift
To madness, I love you, I love you
I don't know where it's taking me
But I'm well everywhere if you're there
I understood everything: I love you, I love you
And every day your eyes teach me
To be happy for the first time
To love, It's never to be alone again
To love, C It's always tonight and always tomorrow
I know
It hurts sometimes, yet
Loving Is the only way to truly exist.
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The expectations

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  « Love reigns supreme in modern literature. Love let loose in complete freedom and in full individual fantasy gives itself free rein. Most often the two sexes go to war in love itself. Woman's revolt against man's selfishness, man's contempt for woman's vanity.

 It is as if the man, tired, finding God neither in science nor in religion, desperately seeks him in the woman. And he does well; but it is only through the initiation of the great truths that he will find him in her, and she in him. Between these souls who ignore each other reciprocally and who ignore themselves, who sometimes leave each other cursing each other, there is an immense thirst to penetrate each other and to find in this fusion the impossible happiness. Despite the resulting aberrations and excesses, this desperate search is necessary; it emerges from a divine unconscious. When the man and the woman will have found themselves and one in the other, by the deep love and by the initiation, their fusion will be the radiant and creative force par excellence.

Psychic love, love-passion of the soul, entered literature, and through it, into the universal consciousness, only recently. But it has its source in ancient initiation. If Greek literature leaves him barely suspected, it is because he was the extremely rare exception. »
(Édouard Schuré, 'Death and beyond')magnifying glassAuthorContributions by Édouard Schuré on the theme of:

The WAY , LOVE , LIFE or DEATH

 You love Me ?

Tell me about love

(Lucienne Boyer)


Lyrics
Tell me about love
Tell me sweet things again
Your beautiful speech
My heart is not tired of hearing it
Voir la suite...
Provided that you always
repeat these supreme words
I love you
You know very well
That deep down I believe nothing of that
But yet I still want to
Listen to these words that I love
Your voice with caressing tones
Which whispers them quiveringly
Lulling me with its beautiful story
And despite myself I want to believe it

Speak to me of love
Tell me sweet things again
Your beautiful speech
My heart is not tired of hearing it
Provided that you always
repeat these supreme words
I love you
He's so sweet
My dear treasure, to be a little crazy
Life is sometimes too bitter
If you don't believe in chimeras
Sorrow subsides quickly
And is consoled with a kiss
we heal the wound of the heart
and with an oath we reassure him

Speak to me of love
Tell me sweet things again
Your beautiful speech
My heart never tires of hearing it
Provided that you always
repeat these supreme words
I love you
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It is futile, and can only end badly, to wait for the love that will fulfill us to come from the other. The solution, the only one, is to act on oneself☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

To initiate

Work on yourself

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 « By changing himself, man can change the world which surrounds him and which weighs on his destiny. »
[Elie Wiesel, 'Hasidic Celebration']

 « You have to work tirelessly to build yourself internally.
 Whoever has built an inner cathedral will not allow himself to be overwhelmed by disappointments, difficulties or the bad twists of fate. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « Citadel, I will build you in the heart of man. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

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In order to be first, ourselves, capable of truly loving
☆ Excerpt from the page: "Love" :

 Love is the essence of life

 His feelings

When I love, a powerful well-being comes to me from within, overwhelms me, overwhelms me. I become a channel between Heaven and the one who awakens this love in me. The flower, by exhaling its perfume, is the first to be intoxicated by it.

  « When you give, you receive. »says St Exupéry

 « [when you really love)
It is not you who love. It is this Force which passes through you, to generate love in you and around you. Love is an energy that flows from every half-open heart connected to First Source. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages" ]

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 « To build peace is to build the stable big enough for the whole herd to sleep in, the palace large enough for all the men to be able to come together without abandoning any of their baggage. It is not a question of amputating them to make them fit there. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

Integrating the other totally (including what does not resemble us or even irritates us) implies a maturity of mind and an inner strength that we do not have from the start, but which is acquired☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

To initiate

Work on yourself

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 « By changing himself, man can change the world which surrounds him and which weighs on his destiny. »
[Elie Wiesel, 'Hasidic Celebration']

 « You have to work tirelessly to build yourself internally.
 Whoever has built an inner cathedral will not allow himself to be overwhelmed by disappointments, difficulties or the bad twists of fate. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « Citadel, I will build you in the heart of man. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

following...
, step by step.

 « That one was lying, she wanted to pretend to be someone else. I was silent before these lies, not listening to the noise of the words, but the effort alone. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

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The daily

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  « There is work to be done on oneself to distinguish what comes from love on the one hand, and from ego on the other hand, because very often the two are intertwined. Some, for example, have the impression of not being loved enough by those around them and find themselves in their couple accusing the other of not having enough feelings.

 In truth, other people are rarely the root of the problem. »
[ Patricia Darré (medium) ]

 « You have to define yourself according to your own internal evaluation system. »
[ Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ]

 « Focusing on the other (your obsession with the other) causes personal relationships to fail.

 What is the other saying, wanting, demanding? What is the other thinking?

 In fact, what the other is saying, wanting, demanding, thinking is of no importance. Only matters what you are
☆ Excerpt from the page: "Taking-back-control" :

To initiate

Work on yourself

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 « When the soul grows stronger, it gains independence and can thus dominate the mind blinded by its fear of disappearing.

 When I was little my guide told me about the poor existence of these souls dominated by the mind.

 « Enjoy, life is short! You were born to enjoy earthly pleasures. Take, take everything you can, then it will be too late, you will turn to dust! If you wait for others to give you, you can wait a long time... »

 This is how human beings run after the riches of the world. A world that they will all leave one day, with all their spiritual baggage, their souls sclerotic from having been locked up in a dungeon during their existence. »
[ Sylvie Lorain-Berger, "The messengers from beyond" ]

 Preserving the inner life from the outer world

 « Inner liberation is a state of total independence from the created universe. It must cause a split between you and the concrete. If nothing in you depends on the outside world, all your sources will spring up in your inner life. Get used to never again considering an earthly success as a gain.

 (...) It is necessary to succeed in silencing in oneself all the concerns relating to the things of the earth. Always be at the top of your soul connected to the supernatural.

 What efforts for a thistle flower to take off! To detach itself, it must become a disc of silk lighter than air. Patiently, day after day, she destroys in her everything that is not aerial.

 When you succeed in separating your mind from your body, your immortal being will be born within you. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

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, in connection with this. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

 « A lot of people hate themselves if they feel like no one likes them. It's a disease, people are truly “love-sick”. In truth, others love them, but no matter how many people show their love for them, it is not enough for them. First they don't believe you. They think you're trying to manipulate them, to get something. (How can you want to love them for who they really are? No. There must be a mistake. You must want something from them!) So they don't believe you and start a campaign to make you prove it . It's up to you to prove that you love them. And if they finally come to believe that you love them, they immediately start wondering how long they can keep your love. So, in order to cling to it, they begin to modify their behavior.

 Thus, two people literally get lost in a relationship…hoping to find each other. And this is a great cause of bitterness for individuals. Two people bond hoping that the whole will be greater than the sum of the parts, but now they feel less than when they were single, less competent, less attractive, less joyful, less content.

 It is because they're diminished. They gave up most of themselves in order to be (and stay) in relationship. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

« To improve marital relations, Cayce suggested that spouses regularly imagine which partner they would like to have if they were in the other's place. »
[according to Edgar Cayce readings]

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 ☞  The importance (difficulty) of everyday life


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The loyalty, the constancy


 « This flower is first and foremost a refusal of all the other flowers. Only then is she beautiful. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

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During difficulties and temptations,
it is moral strength that saves the couple

for the man is the pillar of the home, the woman is the soul.
Let one of them scatter and the house collapses.
Children lose all their bearings.
Accountability will be required.
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 « If I closed the door on the couple in your house, you'll have to go further. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]
If to dedicate oneself to one's family
one prohibits any way out,
one surpasses oneself.

 « Attachment to a relationship does not make it a success. However, long-term relationships present great opportunities for mutual growth. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]

Give a relationship time to mature

During a meeting, physical attraction plays its role: maintain the couple long enough to let Love 'take'. A state of grace that allows him to put down roots.

 « The cedar is built around its seed, and finds, within its own limits, its blossoming.
 Truth digs in like a well. The look, when it disperses, loses the vision of God.

 I am the one who builds the urn around the perfume so that it remains. I am the routine that fulfills the fruit. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « Who are you if you surrender without hesitation to the slightest temptation?

 (...) You must therefore choose: a flash of joy and long-term despair or the slow, patient and often difficult conquest of Love. »
(Martin Gray, 'The Forces of Life')

  « How to build a viable society if everyone obeys their whim and behaves in an unpredictable way? »
(Dr. Norin Chai)

 « My truth, to be fertile, must be stable. Continuity alone will allow the fertility of your effort. Who would you love if you change your love every day? »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]


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The mental, with its physical eyes, compares, weighs.
But true beauty only reveals itself to an elevated soul.

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The disappointment in love

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  « Whoever complains that love has not fulfilled him is that he is mistaken about love: love is not a gift to be received. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « Man often needs a return on his investment. If we love someone, we need to get love back, that sort of thing. It is the greatest source of misfortune for man, it is even what separates him from God. »
[Inspired message to Neale Walsch]
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Seeing the person you hoped to build a home with leave is like losing a loved one. However if you are left for futile reasons, then be happy: you escape future torments because

« He who is no longer your friend never was. » ( Aristotle )
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If the household is already established and children would suffer from a separation, then consider the situation as a challenge; an ordeal that is an integral part of your life plan
☆ Excerpt from the page: "Reincarnation" :

 « Do not flee the Earth and what it imposes on you. When you were born, you entered into a real contract with this other you that you do not suspect. »
(D. Meurois and A. Givaudan, 'Terre d'émeraude')

 Decision, life plan

 « Everyone on Earth knows the experiences he agreed to go through while his soul personality was in the cosmic interlude. As harsh as they may seem, the lesson that needs to be learned is central to the evolution of the soul-personality.
There is no circumstance, there is no situation, however tragic, that does not have its raison d'être. »
[ R. Bernard, Grand Master of the Rose Croix ]

 « You want to know if, when you decide on a reincarnation, you have really chosen all the evil that is going to happen to you. But to decide on its future incarnation, if any, the soul already has the experience of one or more past incarnations. Meditation in the world of light shows him very clearly the lessons missed. Then, she chooses according to her criteria the time, the place, the family, the color of the skin, etc., then she reincarnates. »
[Edgar Cayce, 'In the Light of Light']

 « The circumstances of the departure were established in the life plan with the help of the spiritual guide. Everything is planned, except in the case of a suicide . »
[ Alain Joseph Bellet, 'Dialogues with the spirit world' ]

. Forget yourself!☆ Excerpt from the page: "Love" :

 forget yourself

To love is not"to want", but"to devote oneself to".
Be happy to know each other well. And for that, do the best for him; even if he ignores it, even if our gestures are badly perceived.
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 « Love, really, is to make your happiness depend on other beings. It is to see one's good outside oneself. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « To love is to forget oneself, and the woman who forgets herself and sinks into her love is sublime. She finds in this annihilation her crown of light and the immortal radiance of her being. »
(Édouard Schuré, 'The Great Initiates')

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 ☞  Before considering a breakup

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The conflicts

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Arguments hurt. To the point of considering any solution so that the anguish and discomfort cease.

No matter what triggers a collision, everything is an excuse when you are tired. About what? Quite simply, everyday life. So, we throw whatever comes to mind - preferably what hurts .

In order for the screams to stop, we want to silence the other, but we get the opposite, and that's the escalation.

  ☞ Take it upon yourself, avoid the word irreparable
☆ Excerpt from the page: "Evil" :

The range of a word

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 « All your massacres, all your misfortunes begin with words, nothing but words that are not of love.

 (...) Killing the body is less serious than hurting the soul. »
[ Arnaud Gourvennec, celestial messages ]

 « We will never know the long-term effects of a smile or a word of encouragement. »
[ Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ]

As soon as the Cotesia glomerata lays eggs in a caterpillar, the larva begins to devour it slowly, invisibly. A bad word can do the same. following...
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☞ Remain silent or better, offer a calming word.

☞ Otherwise go out... Go for a walk. Get some air. Let the turmoil within you subside.

☞ Quietly read this page on " Anger "
Then you will understand how easily evil forces can manipulate us.

In the hours or days that follow, there will inevitably be a moment when the spouse will be appeased. He may even make a gesture towards you... At that point, don't push him away. Make another effort, listen to him. Engage in a deep, constructive discussion.

It doesn't matter who said the word that hurts the most. Understand, accept the fact that the other has simply reached their limits
☆ Excerpt from the page: "Why life" :

 The progression of the human soul

Every soul starts from the bottom of the ladder.
From instinct to consciousness, it rises.
From the satisfaction of her desires to the happiness of giving,
she rises.
And the path is long and marked with suffering.

 « If different minds conceive such different truths, it is because evolution is not the same in everyone. »
(Gandhi)

 « The Spirit, like man, also has its childhood.
At their origin, the Spirits have only an instinctive existence and are barely aware of themselves and their actions. »
[Message collected by Allan Kardec]

 « If you don't feel ready to forgive someone's actions, at least forgive the person. (Tell yourself that his still animal conscience is not awake, but that his soul is nonetheless a reflection of God). »
[Doreen Virtue, "Communicating with Angels"]

 « Better is the difficult explanation than the slow rot caused by imperfect relationships. »
(Martin Gray, 'The Forces of Life')


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Marriage weariness

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The stories of frogs who turn into a princess, only the unfortunate who don't know what love really is☆ Excerpt from the page: "Love" :

 Love is the essence of life

 His feelings

When I love, a powerful well-being comes to me from within, overwhelms me, overwhelms me. I become a channel between Heaven and the one who awakens this love in me. The flower, by exhaling its perfume, is the first to be intoxicated by it.

  « When you give, you receive. »says St Exupéry

 « [when you really love)
It is not you who love. It is this Force which passes through you, to generate love in you and around you. Love is an energy that flows from every half-open heart connected to First Source. »
[ Brigitte Quéro, "Spiritual Messages" ]

following...
have fun with it. When a man loves☆ Excerpt from the page: "Love" :

To love is not "to want" , but "to devote oneself to".
Be happy to know each other well. And for that, do the best for him; even if he ignores it, even if our gestures are badly perceived.

 « Love, really, is to make your happiness depend on other beings. It is to see one's good outside oneself. »
[Celestial message from Roland de Jouvenel]

 « To love is to forget oneself, and the woman who forgets herself and sinks into her love is sublime. She finds in this annihilation her crown of light and the immortal radiance of her being. »
(Édouard Schuré, 'The Great Initiates')

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his wife, she becomes irreplaceable. Love then, adorns it with a beauty that completely escapes the gaze of the mental, which only knows how to weigh and compare.

  « We do not rest in love, it is transformed day by day as in motherhood. But you, you want to sit in your gondola and become a gondolier for life. And you are wrong. Because meaningless is that which is not ascent or passage. And if you stop you will only find boredom there since the landscape has nothing more to teach you. And you will reject the woman when you were the one who had to be rejected. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

 « I don't have love as a reserve: it is above all an exercise of my heart.

 Change for you the meaning of things the beloved who far from you has fallen asleep and yet rests as dead. There is a weak breath over there that you cannot even breathe and the world for you is only a miracle.

 But the mystery of the man who despairs if the beloved departs from him, is that if he himself ceases to love, he does not suspect his own impoverishment. He simply says to himself: "She's less beautiful than in my dream or less lovable. » and there he goes, satisfied, into the wind. But the world for him is no longer a miracle. The night is no longer, thanks to this one who breathes in her sleep, that great shepherd's cloak. Everything faded.
  Everything hardened. And the man who is unaware of the disaster does not mourn his past plenitude. He is satisfied by his freedom which is the freedom to no longer exist. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]
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Some grow weary; others delve deeper.
There are those who face the mountain
and others who, at the first difficulty,
go and try the one next door.
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 « The flower fades but it becomes seed for you, and you who believed in the flower otherwise than in a place of passage, you are in despair. For I tell you, the sedentary is not he who loves the young girl with love, then marries the woman, then cradles the child, then teaches the child of the man, then, old man, spreads his wisdom., and so always goes forward, but he who would stop in woman and enjoy it as a single poem or a provision made, and that one soon discovers the vanity of it, for nothing on earth is an inexhaustible reservoir and the landscape glimpsed from the top of the mountains is only the construction of your victory.

 Then he repudiates the woman, or the woman changes her lover, having been disappointed. But only the vanity of their approach was responsible. Because it is only possible to love through the woman and not the woman. Through the poem and not the poem. Through the landscape glimpsed from the top of the mountains. And the license is born of the anguish of not succeeding in being. Thus the one gnawed by insomnia turns and turns on his bed in search of the cool shoulder of the pillow. But no sooner has he touched her than she becomes lukewarm and refuses itself. And he looks elsewhere for a lasting source of freshness. But there is none, for as soon as he touches it the provision is wasted.

 So with the one who saw only the emptiness of beings because they are empty if they are not windows or skylights on God. This is why in vulgar love you only love what escapes you because otherwise you are satiated and sick of your satisfaction. And the dancers who come to me to play love know it well.

 (...) To wake up there effortlessly, you will draw nothing from girls' breasts except the power to forget love there. You will go from oblivion to oblivion, from death to death…. »
[ Saint-Exupéry ]

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  ☞  Our vision of the other

  ☞  The meaning of things